AIBU or is my sister treating me like crap. So last Friday was end of term for ds and pick up was at 1:30, I didn’t finish work until 2 so my sister, who’s ds goes to the same school (my ds is 5 hers is 9) offered to pick up for me and wait in the park until I got there. This is nothing unusual for us, we help each other with childcare often, and I pick her son up every Friday from school and have him til 6pm.
When I finished work at 2 I phoned her to say on my way be around 20 mins everything ok etc, she said yes no problems still in the park but she needed to leave to pick her daughter up from her school , I knew she would need to do this and just assumed she would take the boys with her if I didn’t get back in time but instead she said (word for word) the boys are having fun in the park and there are other mums from school here so I’ll just leave them and go if everyone is ok with that? Bearing in mind I’ve only been taking my son who is in reception to this school for 6 months, hers is in yr 4 and she is on a friendly basis with a couple of the mums who I don’t know, nor does my son, so I just said very politely that I wasn’t sure about leaving my ds with people he/I don’t know, she immediately got the hump and very patronisingly and snappily said “it’s not, I wouldn’t just leave him with random people he’ll be fine, god you worry far to much “ I was a bit taken aback and said ok chill out it was just my instant response, if you think it will be ok until I get there and you really have to go then ok but please don’t patronise me or tell me I worry to much, he is my son he’s only 5 and if that’s how I feel then why does that upset you? She shouted “omg whatever are you done now”?! and hung up on me!
I didn’t bother to ring her back because I know her moods and she was clearly in one so I just set off and picked my ds up from the park where he was in the supervision of another yr 4 mum who we really don’t know well at all, I’m not sure she even knows my name. All was well and I appreciate that she picked up my son and have said no more on the matter to her but she missed my birthday yesterday, something completely out of character for us as sisters, and clearly still has the hump with me, so what I’m wondering is should I apologise? Am I in the wrong? I don’t feel that I was at all rude to her or said anything to warrant her snappy tone with me but I could be wrong!