Dh and I have different approaches to housework.
For example, we got back of holiday today. We need to do tonnes of laundry, grocery shopping, sweep and wash floors, change beds, clean bathrooms, dust and tidy up. ( we were in a rush to leave and Easter holidays etc has meant we left without making house as tidy as possible)
I am unwell- but I sorted and put on washing, hung it out to dry, put dry stuff away, went to Lidl did meal plan and shopped for it and put it away, cleaned family bathroom, tidied kitchen.
Husband spent 3 hours tidying inside cupboards in daughters room.
Aibu to think…..
A) 9year old daughter should clean and tidy her own room
B) he’s doing twiddly focus tasks to avoid doing the heavy lifting and grunt work of essential housework ( not literally heavy lifting- but the dull, messy stuff like scrubbing loos or hoovering stairs)
And …following and argument we’ve just had….
C) it is more important to get the big housework tasks done before you start fucking around with desk cupboards?
He said he’d tidied kitchen but it still looked messy as there was nowhere to put stuff. Therefore it’s more important to spend time first organising all the cupboards. I went in kitchen and actually tidied it but putting stuff away. There was space it just doesn’t get used. E.g. loaf, wraps and burger buns balanced on top of empty bread bin, squash bottle directly under ( half empty) drinks cupboard. I re did kitchen to show him we have adequate space - you just actually have to use it and polishing cupboard shelves might be a nice extra- but if we don’t put stuff in the cupboards it will be messy still! It’s not lack of storage- it’s lack of effort.
So aibu?
Yes- iabu=cleaning cupboards is vitally important and a priority in a messy home. He was being super helpful.
No- ianbu= clean cupboard are nice but do all the big housework jobs first! He was being an avoidant arse.