If something is important, keep it safe?

[YoungSheldon]

Was round at parents today, they pulled out a toy and gave it to my child to play with. I picked it up with the kids toys as we left, just gathering things today and didn’t really clock I’d picked it up.

Long story short, this toy ended up getting lost while we were out during the day. I’ve had no end of grief since then. Emotional manipulation is my parents go to reaction whenever I’m perceived to have done something wrong so I’m never quite sure if I’m to blame or if it’s an overreaction.

I apologised for losing the toy, genuinely thought if it had been brought out for the kids to play with, it was fine to be used. I’ve since been told it’s a sentimental toy with important memories attached from childhood. I’ve been ignored or had the ‘emotionally damaged’ response to anything else I’ve said all day. AIBU to think of something is that important, keep it away from anything that could potentially cause damage? Or is this all completely my fault?

Why is it on you to keep track of it at their house? As in, they should have checked as you were leaving - "where is the X toy? We want to keep that here". If I felt strongly about a toy in my house I would keep tabs on it whilst it was there.

I'm going to go against the general grain and say your dp are over reacting, massively. If it was that important they should have kept an eagle eye on your child while playing with it, and picked it up when it was put down. There is no evidence whatsoever you took it, and no evidence that you lost it - it's just gone, like socks in the washing machine.

Sorry they're shitting on you.

They shouldn’t be leaving it out.
Shouldn’t blame you without proof you definitely took it.

Sounds like you probably did take it by accident though. Is it really a big deal, all you can do is apologise and offer to replace it…