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To cut my losses?

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Wavygravy1 · 08/04/2022 21:28

My best friend of ten years seems to be ghosting me. Without being too outing I have on many occasions dropped everything to support her in a crisis. I have supported her through a divorce and bereavement. She has a new partner who I am yet to meet and I seem to have been dropped for him, no contact for weeks, ignoring my messages etc. I have on a couple of occasions over the past few months explained how I’m feeling about this and it has ended up with me feeling bad for mentioning it. It’s been about 6 weeks since we spoke on the phone, we’ve both had a child had a birthday in that time, mine wasn’t acknowledged, I’ve sent a card with money in to hers (this is what we always do), not heard anything 🤷🏼‍♀️

I’m going through some tests for health issues at the moment so I am more emotional than usual but i’m feeling really hurt that I am not being afforded the same support I have given to her in the past. Part of me just wants to block her and have done with it because I can’t deal with how it’s making me feel and I don’t want to say anything I will regret.

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NuffSaidSam · 08/04/2022 21:34

If she's been good up until now (which I assume she has if she's your best friend of ten years!) then I would really worry that something has happened/is happening to her.

Why would you assume that she just can't be bothered rather than something is preventing her from contacting you/being there for you?

Wavygravy1 · 08/04/2022 21:39

Because it happens periodically and when I try and reach out I get made to feel bad. She’s posting on Facebook 🤷🏼‍♀️

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NuffSaidSam · 08/04/2022 21:40

You know her better than any of us, so go with your gut.

WeThreeKingsofOrientAre · 08/04/2022 22:03

Your title says it all.

Look into ‘sunk cost fallacy’ and see your friendship through a different lens.

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