To think she has undiagnosed adhd

[JesusSufferingFuck22]

I phoned my mum tonight and she asked me if she’d already told me how she got on at the opticians. I said yes, you told me when I phoned on Tuesday.
She says “right ok” and then proceeded to tell me the whole story again🤦🏻‍♀️. She just had to get the story out! I maybe could have repeated saying that she’d already told me but I didn’t want to interrupt. It'd fluster her.
I phone her 2 or 3 times a week and the majority of calls are me listening to her tell me all the tiny details of her days. There is no back and forth. If I respond I just get talked over. Occasionally she'll ask me how my day was and when I'm answering she'll interrupt me with something "really important/funny."
It does my head in. I used to phone her weekly but during lockdown I used to phone daily. She lives on her own. I had to scale it back for my own sanity. Though in lockdown we actually had proper conversations. It was lovely.
Now she's back to her routine of volunteering and church stuff it's back to her talking about how she cleaned the teapots and other scintillating stuff
I just posted to vent. I love her to bits but gosh she's a challenge.

Have a look at these symptoms and see if you remember DM having them, as far back as you can remember - because they will have been there from childhood:

www.nhs.uk/conditions/attention-deficit-hyperactivity-disorder-adhd/symptoms/

I find people with ADHD, you start off with a sentence like

“DD was telling me this morning…..

Then before you can get to the end of the sentence, they assume they know what you are going to say and interrupt with

“Oh, yeah - she told me last night…”

When in fact, you are talking about something different! It’s not anecdotes, they are interested in telling you, but their mind is exploding with a million ideas and they go off at a tangent with those….or the subjects they are hyper focused on!

Yeah, she has a good few of these. There is a bit of a crossover of asd symptoms too.

It's just hard to not take it personally when she asks how I am but then doesn't wait for the answer because she has to tell me what she had for tea.

I remember this behaviour when I was a kid. I'd want to tell her about something that was important to me and it'd get dismissed and I'd have to listen to something that was important to her. I recognise that behaviour in me and work hard to suppress it when I'm dealing with other people.