To ignore our 25th wedding anniversary?

[RunningOnAnEmptyTank]

Anniversary is just over a week away. I mentioned what I’d like to do months ago (couple of nights in Paris, visit the Louvre, nice hotel, romantic dinners). We can’t go far or stay away too long due to DC.

DH said yeah, yeah. I decided to leave it and see if he arranged anything. I organise bloody everything and I’m sick of it. We never go anywhere together. If I mention going out to see a movie, he makes excuses. He goes to the gym 3/4 nights a week and plays football on another night.

It’s not been mentioned since. He hasn’t booked time off work as far as I’m aware and nor have I.

I’m just going to ignore it.

AIBU to think he’s a massive prick. I actually feel sick!

I’d book Paris from r myself personally…. On his credit card.

On the other hand if you told him Paris, and you always organise then perhaps he thought you’d do it/tell him? Did you specifically tell him 25 yrs means he had to organise. If you were clear I’m back to point a .. go by yourself it will be amazing

If you are always doing everything and you know he isn't arranging it you are basically setting yourself up for a disappointment here. Have you considered communicating with him, not just about the anniversary but about your feelings towards his laziness? 25 years is a long time to be unhappy.