Am I jealous? Or, are these people intimidating?

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Name changed for this in case it outs anyone.
I am currently a student. There are a clique on my course how are really friendly with one another. Absolutely nothing wrong with that and a lot of us have our own friend groups within the intake. However, due to the nature of the course, there is a lot of collaboration between the intake. This group of four will do everything in their power to make sure that they are always Exclusively working with one another.
As childish as it sounds, I always dread when I have to work with multiple people of this clique. They are unbelievably bossy (think ‘Bella The Tweenie’), will always make sure that they get all the glory in group tasks, Shut down any ideas not conceived by them: and I find myself wanting to ask if they are aware of the other 20 people on the course?
There has been no friction between any member, we have all been really nice to this group and if anything we as a class seem to praise them a fair amount in their work and vote them in for extra opportunities.
It should be noted that 3 of the 4 are openly Neuro diverse, as are many other members of the class (myself included), and they claim that they struggle with social awareness (their words so please don’t come for me). Therefore part of me feels bad for feeling so aggravated by their behaviour, because I know how bad it feels to always feel pressured to adjust to the social norms. I know that at least one of these people goes for weekly therapy, so I am under no illusion that their lives are picture perfect.
I have always struggled with jealousy myself and part of me thinks that some of my irritation steams from this. Due to them always being listened to, where I always feel shut down really quickly, never being nominated for anything (although I am when the teachers choose, just not when it’s the students), and ultimately feeling like they are praised for the qualities I’m criticised for (someone has actually come up to me and said I talk too much).

TLDR: at my college their is a clique of four (out of 24). They come across as arrogant, but I know they all have their own Demons. They are praised for the qualities that I am criticised for. I can’t tell if I’m jealous or if it’s a case of double standards.

YABU: Yes you are jealous.
YANBU: These people need to understand that it’s not all about them and need to let others contribute to class activities.

What are the current contribution levels from others ?

You are allowed to feel the way you do.

I'm sure that what you perceive is happening is

It's now about how you deal with it internally

There's not much really you can say or do but you need to feel more confident inside yourself and work out ways of not letting it get to you

You could start by writing a diary of what's happening and how you feel about it

Time will make you feel a stronger and more resilient person.

Look around you and observe what others are saying and doing around this clique

The main thing is to focus on your work and not to let your emotions get the better of you.

It is hard I know but a good place to start nevertheless

Do they do a lot of the work? Does it score well?

If so I'd put my feet up for any group work with them and let them take charge. I'd do my fair share of course. But takes the stress of planning, organising etc off of me

It is a difficult situation but I would say that many others on the course also feel the same way as you but do not say anything as do not want to get on the bad side of the 4 of them. Just do your work as best you can and be the best person you can be and try not to overthink it all or it will consume you. You are doing really well and should be proud of your achievements and try to also do something separate from this course for hobbies so that frees your mind and gives you some downtime to relax.

Hi, sorry for the late reply.

What are the current contribution levels from others ?
I think most of the others have grown accustom to the work dynamics.
The course run a focus group for the Neurodiverse members and we all agreed that sometimes we feel that if curtain members don’t offer ideas/Opinions to discussions, no one else will say anything and so this can get some balls bowling so that we can begin to do something for our work.