AIBU to say screw the lot of you and drive off into the sunset

[Jumpjumparound]

I know IABU, more a vent than anything. Just back from a week’s holiday with DH and 3 DC, 11, 9 and 4. Lovely cottage, lots of fun activities planned and they have been rude and complained about the whole thing from start to finish. DC have done nothing but fight the whole time over things you wouldn’t even think it possible to fight over. Apparently DC 4 was looking at DC 9’s book for example. Not touching it, just looking at it from a distance. DH has been in a mood the whole week over something that happened at work before we left. I’ve tried to be sympathetic but he left me with all the cooking and cleaning to do (it was easier just to do it myself) and now we’re home has disappeared off to his mate’s house, so I l have even more cleaning and unpacking to do. Now I’ve locked myself in the bath and the kids are outside the door, arguing with each other. I’ve never done so much for people who seem so utterly disgusted and ungrateful for it. WIBU to drive off and leave them all to it? (Once DH gets back from his mate’s of course).

Can I come with you?

Currently on holiday with my primary age children and wish I hadn’t bothered. More stressed now than I was at work.

It’s not a break.

If you want to do something extreme, it should be something that only affects your husband. I'm not sure what. Probably just a sensible conversation would be best

@tackling

Vanishing off punishes the kids unfairly. As someone else said, they're just being kids.My mum pulled this shit threatening to walk out and it wasn't okay, it left us terrified all the time, and it wasn't our fault - it was our dad she was really unhappy with.

But I'd be bloody having a pointed discussion with "DH".

You're right actually. This has more to do with OP's husband than the kids.

Sorry to hear you went through that

OF COURSE you should do it. Your husband has just done it. So why on earth are you questioning whether you should or not?

Vanishing off punishes the kids unfairly. As someone else said, they're just being kids

At 9 and 11 they are old enough to behave better and to start to learn not to take people for granted.

A short sharp sock might do no harm and a lot of good. Not sure about 5 days but 2 would be enough to get their attention. Then when you get back let them know, 'D' H especially exactly why you did it.

Better still send a WhatsApp after you have got yourself settled to say you are so fed up by the way they have all behaved over the last week that you need some time away from them

@Bogofballs

Can I come with you?

Currently on holiday with my primary age children and wish I hadn’t bothered. More stressed now than I was at work.

It’s not a break.

My poor parents, my siblings and I squabbled relentlessly on holidays. Now the fights are stuff of legends. Particularly the one about the broken pencil case zipper.

We were worse on holidays. I don't know why they persisted.

But your DH isn't being fair, OP. Leave the mess for him to clear up and try to do something relaxing if that even remotely possible.

Thanks everyone, I feel a lot better with your support! To those who asked, no he isn’t usually so useless, it’s just been a combination of factors plus I was really looking forward to this holiday. I’m so disappointed after spending so much time and money on something that was meant to be fun. DH is now home and I’m at my friend’s with a large g and t. I’ll go back nice I’ve had a few more. Hope everyone else’s holidays are going well!!

Bit scary for the 4 year old if you just disappear, though I’ve voted yanbu as I don’t blame you for feeling that way. A serious talking to all round is due, I’d say. And don’t do everyone’s unpacking. Except the 4 year old….

The kids sound infuriating, but have the excuse of being kids. Your DH though: no. Up to him to sort out his 'mood', and how dare he leave you all the cooking and cleaning and unpacking?
I'd be having a serious conversation.

Vanishing off punishes the kids unfairly.

They don’t seem punished by OP’s husband doing it.

Good for you OP, have one for me 😁

Take all their screens away. Give them bread and water for dinner. Tell them if they are not going to be nice to each other and you, then you will not be nice either.

I've only read the title - but is that you Boris?

Go and leave them to it for a week, leave them a note telling them you have gone for a break on your own as the holiday you had with them was bloody awful.