A.i.b.u to set struggling dd 16 , hours of revision over Easter?

[Thinkyoung]

I say struggling because i think she has inattentive a.d.h.d (due to be assessed just after g.c.s.e but there is no attempt to struggle). She is capable of passing, just but does badly in exams. She has low self esteem . Left to her own devices she does nothing apart from phone, or movies. So do i leave her to fail or crack the whip with hours to perhaps pass some? A.i.b.u to insist on productivity?

How is it going @Thinkyoung? we're also having similar struggles...dd 16 also Adhd. I came up with a plan similar to your for easter, I was aiming for 3 25 min sessions, so far it hasnt gone that well! Lots of procrastination and yes resistant to any ideas that are different to hers .. it's time consuming, but trying to persevere with setting small tasks. Difficult when older dd spent at least 2 hours a day revising independently to have different expectations!

Have you looked into body doubling? That's meant to be very helpful for some ADHD people, and works a treat for my husband. Essentially just someone else in the room working in a similar style to how she should be - on a laptop or with papers around them etc. If my DH is left alone in a room with his computer he gets 0 done. Working in an office with other people he is entirely different. Also background music etc can help. Some people find it distracting, but others find it helps. Rather than being a dragon about revision (which will probably be met with rebellion) try and help her find coping strategies - ie the above, or bribery, short sessions, pop quizzes in the car etc etc.
The only thing that got me through my Latin GCSE was doing the ironing while I recited passages to myself. If I'd had to sit at a desk and revise I'd have flunked.

Easter has always been revising time once you hit 15. I had years of spending Easter holidays revising. It's reasonable to try and give her some structure if she is incapable of structuring her own life but in the long term she needs to find a life path and career that she can manage herself which may not be an academic path if she isn't willing to try and study.
Give it a try but if she won't try and co-operate then don't force it. She has to realise she is doing this for her, not for you.

I've got DS to do few hours - takes fair bit of time and negotiation to get him to come down to kitchen to do some work - we just working through some of the books together at the moment.

Then doing a block about 1 - 1.5 - with few breaks but I do have to be around often sat at the same table as him - if not doing stuff with him.

I think some on-line maths revision set by teacher may have been done but in his room by himself mostly nothing happens.

I used to find I worked better in a library or in space were other people were working.

We have found some 'Youtube' videos on certain areas helpful as well.

Badly @duvet ! We have been in different rooms so that i have not stood over her. On Monday she had 15 questions and answers to complete for languages. It takes her for ever and she there is no determination to learn as she goes, i know without checking. Tuesday i let her go off to be a teen all day with her mates as it is important too.

Yesterday, minimal and today she has been extremely slow in copying out past paper questions and answers . So even if the least efficient way , that way would take her until next year, minimum. One page of A4 has taken 2 hours in total. I suggested she revised each theme factor points, in a short and clear way which i think she knew all along but could not be arsed to do and meets me with resistance, or "okay" but i know that means , i'm going along with what you say until you are out of the door.

I have indicated months ago that if she had real intentions of doing A Level , that would need solid written and reading , continuously and that it is fast paced and independent but that she is capable if she wants. At this rate i am not sure she can get grade 4s . I think that Btechs are best suited to her but even these ones now at G.C.S.E level are not going to be the equivalent to 4s.

I feel awful insisting that she is to revise. We are butting heads and sadly i am not sure whether it is worth it, only that i feel it is better than being on her phone all day for 2 weeks total!

This thread has been of comfort though in knowing people's struggles. You have my sympathies.

I feel awful insisting that she is to revise. We are butting heads and sadly i am not sure whether it is worth it, only that i feel it is better than being on her phone all day for 2 weeks total!

Yes same! Will be glad to be back in work! Your post made me feel better!