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To think of talking to my manager about my colleague?

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Onlyrainbows · 07/04/2022 12:43

We're both new in our jobs, she's newer but only by a few weeks. My colleague gives her opinion ALL the time even when nobody asked her and I think that's bringing the mood down. She has already been told off about this as she annoyed someone fairly higher up but my manager brushed it off. It also annoys me at times (for example yesterday my manager asked for a report, I asked for clarification but my colleague decided to answer before our manager, it turns out I was right, but no need to interrupt the flow). I think her attitude is to the detriment of our department/roles but I really don't know if this should be put forward to my manager.

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WindowsSmindows · 07/04/2022 12:44

Leave it for your manager to notice and deal with.

Indicatrice · 07/04/2022 12:52

I think you need to manage it by yourself in the first instance, politely and assertively.

Can you not just say ‘Yes, I’m aware of that Tabitha, can I please finish’.

Onlyrainbows · 07/04/2022 13:29

It was over slack... But I don't know it made me feel stupid momentarily (most likely not her intention) but still.

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Shurl · 07/04/2022 13:32

She is doing it in front of your manager, so they arei obviously aware. So you'd basically be telling them that you find her annoying, which isn't very professional.

I'd get my head down, gain experience and then work out how to distance yourself from her within your role so you don't deal with her much

Onlyrainbows · 07/04/2022 13:37

Exactly Shurl either my manager sees it already as an issue or she doesn't. Unfortunately, we hold the same titles and work in tandem. I like her as a person (don't get me wrong there!)

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Underfrighter · 07/04/2022 14:19

If be very careful about this, it does sound annoying but if it's not affecting your work directly in a way you can prove then I'd be wary about putting in a complaint about something that is essentially her personality, especially as you're new.

If it's something tangible then I'd follow up in email (eg id like to clarify that...) but if she is jumping in and getting things wrong and interrupting in meetings etc I'd just wait for her to finish and then correct her or say 'as I was saying...' Everyone else will have noticed so I wouldn't risk getting involved with something that is hard to prove, hard to fix, and puts you at risk of looking like a whinger in a new role

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