Why does a job feel better after you have resigned?

[katedan]

So I have resigned from my current job in Feb but as it is a 3 month notice period I am still working there. I have a terrible habit of thinking the grass is greener elsewhere and hence move jobs a lot but now I feel like I have made a mistake as the pro's of the job have been more evident during my notice period and I now regret resigning, even though it will be a promotion in the new job. I have started the handover so can't change my mind but I now am regretting my decision!

I'm pretty much in the same boat, new job is same grade but it's ten minutes away whereas I'm driving a 3 hour round trip in the current job. I'm putting it down to cold feet but I'm seriously tempted to stay

I think its because you detach emotionally and can view the job more objectively.
I actually think its a skill some people can apply in their roles and are probably able to achieve better work life balance.

It's much more enjoyable knowing it'll be someone else's problem in a few weeks time

I left my job as felt like I wasn’t getting the progression opportunities and had a 4 week notice
Went to new place and I seriously missed my old job, the benefits such as it was closer to home more flexible working and nice people and ended up returning after a year I was very lucky and grateful they had me back! It has made me appreciate my job and company more by stepping away and I did learn a lot in my year at another company but just to agree the grass isn’t always greener but sometimes it gives opportunities for growth

It’s like when you leave a bad relationship…initially you feel relieved, somewhat elated and sure that you’ve made the right decision. However, as time goes on you start to remember only the good times, the bad times fade and this is the danger point at which you consider returning

Because you don’t care anymore!

Because you have no skin in the game anymore.

Have you seen the episode of the US Office where the main character resigns and spends his notice period doing fuck all? That was me after I handed my notice in in my last job.

@MichaelAndEagle

I think its because you detach emotionally and can view the job more objectively. I actually think its a skill some people can apply in their roles and are probably able to achieve better work life balance.

This, also to a certain extent there's less pressure. You slowly get dropped from longer term projects/meetings, managers tend to ease off in terms of deadlines/results as projects close and they're busy finding your replacement - they realise how much they rely on you and need your input to continue your role in your absence. I also find that colleagues can become a lot more friendly, especially those that are equally disillusioned and can see you as a safe space to confide as a defector 😂

Also currently working the last weeks of my notice period and feel the same way. I don’t think it’s because I’m doing less work / letting things slide: I’m leaving for a better opportunity and career progression rather than because I hate the job and I wouldn’t want to burn future bridges (the area I work in is reasonably niche) by leaving a sour taste.

For me a lot of it is about the things which no longer matter to me which aren’t a part of my day job - like my performance reviews and the whole ruthless peer grading system, needing to make my corporate contribution for recognition purposes, having to go above and beyond and take in other project work, absorbing overflow etc. It’s now just understood that I’m busy doing my job and tying up loose ends and handing over rather than anything else. Without all that, I actually really enjoy my job and the work I do!

I was like Cassandra when I was moving roles.

Pointing out all sorts of unpleasant but factual things about what we'd need to prioritise and what we'd need to deprioritise in order to deliver the project. Friend who stayed says they ignored my advice and is all in a mess.

Basically trying to keep that attitude in new job and not hide home truths for the sake of popularity.