My mum's partner

[jodiesk]

My mum has been seeing a guy (lets called him John) for about 4 years.
Mum and John as both in mid-60s, both divorced.
John has 2 grown up children, NEITHER of him have anything to do with him.
He tells my mum that one of the DC is violent and abusive, the other joined some kind of religious group and got brainwashed.
I find this hard to believe that he has nothing do with both of his DC. These are his only DC. John seems to paint himself as a victim of mistreatment by his DC, but I'm not sure I'm convinced.
Seems to have a list of physcho exes too.
My mum is smitten by him and tries to shut me down whenever I raise concerns about the real reasons John's DC have no contact with him. As far as we know, one stoppped all contact with him about 15 years ago and the other within last couple of years.

What are you concerned about? How does John treat your mum?

I’d be tweaked by that too but I’m not sure there’s anything you can do. Your mum is smitten. They have been together for four years. If nothing else has come up in that time it’s not going to be a dealbreaker.

@breakingthebank

What are you concerned about? How does John treat your mum?

I guess I'm just concerned that he could be hiding a darker side... Just can't help finding it odd that every previous relationship he's mentioned seems to involve a physco or "mentally ill" woman.. That's how he describes them. Seems a pattern to it. He doesn't just say "oh Sue and I didn't work out.. we wanted different things..". He seems to list all her faults. Seems weird to me. Why not just say "it didn't work" or "she wasn't right for me"? John seems to treat my mum well, does a lot of errands for her (she can't get out and about easily due to a disability). As far as I know he's never been disrespectful to her or asked her for money. I just find it all very odd that his DC both want nothing to do with him if he's such a "nice man". Its extreme if 1 DC disowns him, but for both to do it??