To be a bit annoyed with my dentist

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I’m always moaning at ds about teeth cleaning, being lazy or even avoiding it.

Every dentist appointment for years I mention this- she always though praises his teeth. Last time I challenged her saying I’d seen a few times blood in the toothpaste an do had to nag him. No, she overruled they seem fine.

Today, months after seeing her an appointment for braces. They refused as his teeth after being kept clean. Showed me how easily they bleed and slime at gum line, basically what I’ve been saying for ages.

If anything too he’s been making more of an effort than usual to clean them so they are probably better than others.

This is in conjunction with saying my youngest has no issues- she has clear large cavities I swear, bits missing.

My checks also have been ‘fine’, ‘fine’ then suddenly ‘extraction’.

I just feel like she looks for 1-2 min and rolls to the next nhs person.

Or Aibu? Sounds normal?

If she doesn’t give you the service you want then move? I’m not sure why you’d keep going back if you don’t like her and the advice she’s giving

That’s crap but why did you keep going there if you knew she wasn’t doing proper checks?

I guess I’ve been clinging to the nhs option available, private is my other option and the expense.

@HollowedOut because she was so sure and strident that she made me feel wrong I guess. I’m not a dentist, she’d cut in and correct me. I ending up feeling a fuss pot

I went through something similar with an NHS dentist. I just don’t think they’ve got the time to sort things before they become issues so I’ve gone private and much happier with the approach

I'd transfer to another nhs dentist. My dcs dentist is nhs for them but private for me. Hes great with all of us. He has pointed out in the past where he doesn't think they've been brushing properly.

There’s no other nhs option here

I'm in the same situation - been saying for at least a year that something feels wrong and they've just brushed over it. Insisted last week at an emergency appointment that they check thoroughly and I now need an extraction! I bloody knew it! But you trust the professionals and they let you down. And I now have a 12 week wait on something that possibly could have been avoided if they'd listened earlier, or at the very least I would have been further up the waiting list if they'd not wasted my time/money on previous appointments. So useless. It's frustrating and unacceptable. Yanbu

Sadly I think if you want to have and keep nice teeth now you need to go private.

Well more confusingly, I took my son to a private hygienist. She was actually very positive about cleaning, very little to do. Offered to write a report about his teeth.
Apparently the nhs practice mainly do private braces. They did actually send me quite a few emails pushing for private braces (to avoid waiting lists they said). Spoke to a friend and apparently nhs braces are nearly impossible locally and everyone has a reason to be bumped off…
Obviously I don’t know how much and which is true. But it’s maybe, to be fair to my dentist, a little more complex than she’s bad