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AIBU to think an IOU is worse than no gift?

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Shadowface · 06/04/2022 16:50

DH and I celebrated a big anniversary early last year. We didn't expect any gifts but did get some from friends/family (bottles of wine etc). One of my oldest friend gave us a card and wrote in it that she would take us out for dinner somewhere of our choice to celebrate with her and her DH. The issue with this is that her DH has a very restrictive diet which rules out a lot of our fave places and at the time my DH had health issues which meant we were trying to avoid public places because of the virus plus there was restrictions at the time. Well its been a year now and shes never mentioned it again. I feel its not really a gift for me and dh if I have to arrange it, take into consideration there likes ect and then she just shows up with the cash. And theres the issue of there work schedules clashing with ours, finding someone to look after dc and other stuff to organise too! I feel like a gift card to a restaurant for me and DH to use whenever or even just the card wishing us well wouldve been better. They say its the thought that counts but there was clearly no thought! I would just forget it but she also said a mutual friend was stingy with her gift and slagged her off! I'd feel like a CF mentioning it after all this time too.

AIBU to be annoyed at this? Or should I just forget it?

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Philisophigal · 06/04/2022 17:33

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Pyri · 06/04/2022 17:35

If she’s a good friend then I’d say “I’ve been looking at places for that birthday meal you so kindly mentioned, what do you think of XYZ and shall we get a date in the diary?”

MrsIglesias · 06/04/2022 17:35

YABU. I'd love that gift. She can give whatever gift she wants. Its not up to her to bring it up - you do it and suggest somewhere that you like. Im sure there will be something there her DH can eat.

Mary46 · 06/04/2022 18:18

I think I would say would x date suit us all. Otherwise it doesnt happen. Thats what we found with meetups

LadyCatStark · 06/04/2022 18:20

I would just forget it. I don’t know anyone that gives gifts for other people’s anniversaries.

Shadowface · 06/04/2022 18:29

Ok, thanks all!

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PinkSyCo · 06/04/2022 18:33

You’re supposed to give gifts for people’s anniversaries? That’s a new one on me. I thought the happy couple just bought for each other!

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