To live with my parents at 33..

[wintersparkle1987]

ExP refused to leave the family home, I can't afford it on my own (I was a SAHM) so I took the kids (5 and 6 months) and went to live with my parents.
I've only just applied for UC and start a part time job on Friday.
With the cost of living as it is, even though I've bid on a couple of council houses I just don't imagine how i'm ever going to afford it.
It's such a squeeze at my parents though and I feel like im putting on them.
ExP wasn't literally abusive but he would shout so not a nice environment.
It's pathetic living with my parents at this age isn't it?

Have you checked out all the benefits you'd be entitled to if in a council house with DC and a part time job? Research thoroughly!
It's absolutely fine to live with parents. Don't feel pathetic, feel lucky that you have good parents
I would work on a long-term plan though, even if you are going to live with them for quite some time, it's good to have something to work towards.

Doing what’s best for you and your children would never be seen as pathetic.

Maybe after an abusive relationship bring with your family will do you good?

And your parents probably love being with their grandchildren.

I'm 35/36, I moved away for almost a decade in my 20s, but I live back with my parents due to my physical and mental health.

It sucks, it's not good for my mental health in other ways, but you have to do what you have to do.

It doesn't have to be forever. Hopefully.

Not pathetic at all - forget what anyone else might think (not that anyone in their right mind would judge you unfavourably under the circumstances!), just keep doing what's best and safest for you and your children. Lovely for your parents to have the contact with their grandkids too

Not pathetic at all. And it sounds like a wonderful arrangement. How old are your parents? I bet they are loving having you and their grandchildren to stay. This could be a nice time for all of you to remember.

Not pathetic at all. Please don’t be so hard on yourself. Give yourself time to get used to being on your own again. It won’t be forever!

What's pathetic is a grown man forcing children to leave their home.

You're doing what's right by them. Be proud you're showing them what a loving family is.

If my daughter was in your position I would love to have you at home, even if it is a squeeze. I would just be glad to know you were safe.

DD2 had to come home to live with me for a good few years in her 20s/early 30s, due to various things that hadn't worked out for her. I never once thought of her as 'pathetic'. That's what families do for someone of their own who's struggling, if they can.

Don't be so hard on yourself, you're doing what you can to get on your feet.

Give yourself time to breathe, then decide what to do next.

Not only is it not at all unreasonable or embarrassing, in many culture living with parents is completely normal!
I suspect with the ever rising cost of living it will only become more common. Good luck to you all and I hope you can rebuild a happier life away from XP.

Don’t worry OP, I think this is a situation a lot of people find themselves in. Nothing about it is pathetic.
Although it may be a little crowded, your parents might really enjoy having you there, once you’ve moved out you’ll probably all look back on your time together fondly.

If you can I’d stay there as long as they’ll have you to save up / find a place you really want to live.

How do your parents feel about you living in their home?

It's pathetic living with my parents at this age isn't it? Of course not. It's family looking after their own. Family at their best. You may be able to repay it down the line.