Background: I have two sisters, one about 2 years older and one about 10 years younger. Younger sister turned 21 in 2020 and would like to go on a weekend trip abroad as a belated celebration this year with me, our other sister and mum. All lovely so far. My younger sister and I get on for the most part but have never been particularly close.
Come to arranging it, we’re on face time specifically to book the trip. Younger sister doesn’t have her laptop to do it and responds with ‘I can’t be bothered to get it, takes too long to load, will do it tomorrow’. Also ‘it’s over £100 more’ than she originally said, with a very ‘yea and? So what’ attitude. No ‘is that alright with everyone?’ Oh and the luggage is more expensive too. I bit my tongue.
Next day we’re on face time again. There’s another expense, attitude on her end hasn’t changed. My other sister spots something else is actually double the price and my younger sister responds with ‘right?’ and a shrug of the shoulders. At this point I called her out, said we’re doing this for her and her attitude stinks. We argued. Mum sits quiet, queen of the fence.
In the past, if we’ve argued, it’s quickly forgotten e.g. she’ll ring me for help with an essay for example and I’ll put the argument aside and help.
However I went to my mums on Mother’s Day (where my sister still lives) and she completely blanks me like I’m not even there. My mum sits quiet again (apart from telling me how younger sister has spoilt her for Mother’s Day).
I’ve now said I’m not going on the trip, I just don’t see why I should when the person I’m doing it for is so selfish and rude. My mum still wants me to go but that just feels like accepting her behaviour as ok (although I will be sad when they all do go).
I also booked a lunch cruise for the 4 of us as an Xmas present which I am now going to cancel and get them all an alternative present as it was quite expensive and I now won’t be going.
AIBU? As I feel like I’m causing the issue.