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Still on dating app… 🙄

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Trippingslippingx1 · 04/04/2022 10:52

AIBU to think it is a bit off for guys to still be using Dating Apps after you have been speaking / seeing them for 3/4 months?

I had this conversation with my friend - I said if he is still on there he is still looking, he does not like you that much. She said that was ridiculous and he was allowed to do what he wants. I said of course he is, but he still does not like you that much 😂 Its not a great sign. Hes stringing you along. She said she would never say anything as she did not want to look ‘psycho’. I said just saying to him your pal seen him on PoF or whatever else is hardly psycho - it is the way you word it. ‘My friend seen you on PoF, do you still use it’. Hardly the epitome of instability.

I am so sick of the dating app / slide into DMs / casual culture of dating. Men seen to benefit greatly whereas some Woman are just being played left right and centre.

When I was 18/19 if I had met a guy out in a bar and we ended up seeing each other for weeks and been intimate - if me and the other girls got wiff of him SMSing on his Nokia to another lassie we would have called him a two timing moron and slapped him. Its so much worse now that they can literally do it from the palm of their desperate hands in their bachelor pads / behind their wives back in the toilet.

What has happened.

AIBU or is she? Feel so disillusioned with society.

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marjayy · 04/04/2022 10:59

Depends whether you're now actually in a relationship or just dating.

Mangogogogo · 04/04/2022 12:48

But I mean presumably the woman also has the right to still be on the app?
Not all women are just sat around hoping every shag will fall in love with them!

Sassbott · 04/04/2022 12:51

I think it’s a private matter for two individuals to discuss and decide on. Her life, her boundaries. If she’s happy being with him in the knowledge he’s still on a dating app, then that’s her choice.

Plenty of women also use dating apps for hook ups btw. Plenty of men who are seeking to settle down are finding the same phenomenon. It’s not one sided.

PicaK · 04/04/2022 12:53

The free ones - they should come off completely
The ones you pay for for 3 or 6 or 12 months nope. But you can hide the profile.

AHungryCaterpillar · 04/04/2022 12:53

Sounds Like they are not exclusive

Trippingslippingx1 · 04/04/2022 13:12

@Sassbott

I think it’s a private matter for two individuals to discuss and decide on. Her life, her boundaries. If she’s happy being with him in the knowledge he’s still on a dating app, then that’s her choice.

Plenty of women also use dating apps for hook ups btw. Plenty of men who are seeking to settle down are finding the same phenomenon. It’s not one sided.

Agree. My males friends have had it too
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Trippingslippingx1 · 04/04/2022 13:13

@marjayy

Depends whether you're now actually in a relationship or just dating.
She thought it was relationship / long term commitment
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Zelia · 23/08/2022 22:31

I read that if a guy is into you he will look to be exclusive in 2-3 months. I think the advice was to move on if they haven't discussed or tried to bring this up by this point and you are looking for something more serious. There are always exceptions, but on the whole i've found it to be true. I think if you're asking yourself then something doesn't feel right...

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