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Should I not have asked this?

11 replies

Omgwasiwrong · 02/04/2022 22:48

Yesterday I got a taxi home, like I do several times a week usually. The taxi driver was an Asian gentleman and we started to chat. He asked had I just finished work so I said I had and was off now for two weeks so was happy. He asked is this called the Easter holidays? I said yes it is and we return just after Easter. I then thought about a discussion we’d had in school with some Muslim students saying it was likely to be Ramadan on Saturday or Sunday and how it was easier for them to fast when they were off school so they were pleased about that so asked was he Muslim. He confirmed he was and we had a chat about Ramadan etc and the things I’ve just said. It was a pleasant chat but I’m just thinking was I wrong to ask was he Muslim and presume he probably was by his appearance and name etc? I have used this company for many years and had similar chats with many other Muslim drivers but I think they were started by them. Was I wrong or was this ok? I’d hate to offend anyone.

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Justawaterformeplease · 02/04/2022 22:49

Seems like the question you asked was just like the one he did, don’t worry about it!

AppleKatie · 02/04/2022 22:50

Eh?

You had a chat, asked an innocuous question because you were interested and he answered pleasantly. Doesn’t sound like an issue to me.

bonfireheart · 02/04/2022 22:50

It's fine and I say that as a Muslim.

SweetsAndChocolates · 02/04/2022 22:53

Absolutely fine, no harm in asking whatsoever.
It's better to ask than just assume Smile

StatisticalDream · 02/04/2022 23:26

It wouldn't offend me unless you went on to say something derogatory about his religion, culture, etc which obviously you didn't do. I don't mind people asking me where I'm from either or asking me about my country of ethnic origin as long as they aren't derogatory (which some people unfortunately are). Sounds like you had a nice chat.

HellToTheNope · 02/04/2022 23:30

Good grief. Stop overthinking this. You're a human being who had a perfectly polite conversation with another human being.

WTF is with all of this absurd paranoia about saying the "wrong thing?"

Jalepenojello · 02/04/2022 23:39

Of course it’s fine. I assume he made assumptions about you and guessed you were off for Easter. You made equal assumptions and he confirmed Ramadan. No big deal.

chisanunian · 02/04/2022 23:55

You were equally interested in each other's faith, or culture and customs, and wanted to know more. Sounds fine to me.

Comedycook · 02/04/2022 23:56

You're overthinking

Rosebel · 03/04/2022 00:10

The main thing is he wasn't offended as if he was he probably wouldn't have kept chatting to you so don't worry about it.
I can't see anything offensive about your question, I really wouldn't even think about it anymore.

FrankLeeSpeaking · 03/04/2022 00:26

It's fine. Presumably if he wasn't Muslim he would have just said no.

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