A day of unfortunate errors

[January73]

Hi, I’m a very long time lurker, but today I’m at the end of my, granted, very privileged, first world problems.
I’m hormonal, likely peri menopausal, period should be due but it’s running late however I have the hormone “dip” .. absolutely no possibility of pregnancy.

Today. Went to get my hair cut and coloured for first times since October 2021. Hairstylist is usually awesome. I would normally go for bolder colours and I like my hair short and layered. I’ve come away with a slight shade darker then my normal chestnut brown, and if she’s cut a half inch off my hair, I’d be surprised. I also now have a fringe. She knew by my face I wasn’t happy. She was running late and had three other customers waiting, so she asked if we could sort it out later. Fine.

I got home, walked into the bathroom and just teared up. Unreasonably, I know, it’s just hair. I just hate it now I’ve seen it in “ raw daylight” so to speak.

Went home, had asked husband if he could Hoover living room while I was out. It wasn’t done.

Then during a discussion about domestic abuse, I got frustrated at my husband not seeing my point of view. He doesn’t go fine domestic violence but he couldn’t see why an international organisation might like it’s condoning DV by not penalising an abuser found guilty in court.

Final straw for today; I went to pick up a click & collect order, which I got told was all ready for pick up. Two thirds of it is missing. I’ve to call back Monday afternoon and see if it’s arrived yet or not.

Walked into kitchen. Dirty Dinner plates from last night, and cooking pots, utensils, etc, still sitting on worktop. Husband & daughter responsible for dishwasher. Husband came through stating he was going to get around to them.. he’s been gaming all mistaking. I told him to go away and leave me to it.

I’ve now retreated to my bedroom with a choc chip cookie and a 500ml bottle of Diet Coke. Not to exit until I’m ready to make dinner….

I acknowledge it’s just one bad day and nothing that is serious at all, I’m just feeling like Sad Sack and Eeyore

Oh, and I originally somehow posted this as a reply on a completely unrelated thread (I’ve reported it for removal)

Is there any particular reason to make dinner? No one else in your house has done their bit. I'd stay put.

I can empathise. I've also had a hideous day where everything that could have gone wrong has.

Enjoy your cookie. And don't make dinner.

@picklemewalnuts

Is there any particular reason to make dinner? No one else in your house has done their bit. I'd stay put.

Agree

I think you only need to move to retrieve an ipad for watching Netflix, or wine, or both. Sod dinner.

Don’t make dinner, have a crisp sandwich!

Honestly, just please yourself, you've had a double flusher of a day.

Takeaway & wine. Do not cook. Ignore them all. Hope you feel better tomorrow.

Order a takeaway just for you! I would.

Also- hair. Hair is everything. So I feel your pain x

I wouldn’t cook dinner if I were you. Just stay where you are.

Absolutely do not make dinner. I'm sure they can sort it. Time to get people pulling their weight. I'm sorry about your hair and I'm sure after a week or so it will seem longer as it is always extra bouncy at first cut.

We all have our down in the dumps days. Tomorrow is another day. I certainly wouldn't be making the tea!!

If anyone come on and says 'b b b but Ukraine', ignore them OP.

We are all entitled to feel fed up sometimes and have a cry 🌻

Aww, that sounds a shit day.

Totally agree. Phone yourself a pizza and stay in the room.

@Momijin

Absolutely do not make dinner. I'm sure they can sort it. Time to get people pulling their weight. I'm sorry about your hair and I'm sure after a week or so it will seem longer as it is always extra bouncy at first cut.

I think the problem is it's too long, she wanted it short (except the fringe, of course).

Husband came through stating he was going to get around to them.. I told him to go away and leave me to it.

Why? Just why would you say that. What you should have done is said you were having a shit day. You expect him to get on and clear up the kitchen, hoover like he was supposed and make dinner.

THEN you go to your room with your cookie and coke. Everything else can get sorted later. Don't be a martyr. Step up and state your needs.

I'm guessing that you didn't want a fringe?

How did that happen?

Dishwasher you should have left him to do.

Why can' t husband & daughter do dinner?

Oooo well the other day I had a day like this but it was more like I choked on a peanut at work, my snacks got stuck in the vending machine and had an itchy boob I couldn’t itch cos I was in a meeting with a man. And now I feel crap because I moped for the evening, you have every right and more so fuck if I’d be making dinner in your situation. I’d be tempted to order myself a curry but I would actually feel bad about not getting them one, then I’d be annoyed at that

Yes, you’re right but I’ll be honest, I really wanted to make a lot of noise loading the dishwasher. Childish, I know, but it was a bit cathartic.

However. I’ve just opened up the dishwasher, it went through the motions and didn’t wash anything.

I really wanted to make dinner as I’m making chicken tikka which I really like to do. The rice is now decorating the floor and worktop as the bag slipped out my hand. I may dissolve into hysterical laughter soon, clutching a wine bottle, in a darkened corner

Thank you to all for your comments, you’ve all genuinely cheered me up.

I would usually handle days like today much better- they are a rare occurrence, thankfully.
DH & DD do share the household stuff but today, nothing could go right.

I had a nap. I shut myself away as I was getting to the point of becoming angry and I really don’t like being angry.

I found thumping the dishes in the dishwasher, actually quite cathartic. Reason I told DH to go away is I just wanted to have my own tantrum with the dishes. Childish, I know.

However, I opened the dishwasher after it finished its cycle: it didn’t wash anything. The DH & DD are washing & drying the dishes.

The hair. Hairdresser has messaged very apologetic. I’ve known her for years and she is usually spot on. Going back to get it cut how I asked. Nothing I can do about the fringe. I just have a severe dislike of them on me. It is only hair, I’m just being over sensitive.

Dinner. I wanted to make it. I love making chicken tikka. However… the rice is now decorating the floor and worktops as it spilled everywhere when I lifted it.

I’ve opened wine. Although I did wonder if it’s a good idea as some things I touch today, are definitely going wrong. So the wine might be vinegar… ah I’ll give it a go

Might be a good idea to stay away from anything fragile tonight! Did you sleep ok? Sometimes I get like that when I, just bone tired. Nothing works, and I can't cope with all the things not working. So I go to bed.