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Original poster

To be nervous for my daughters first sleepover?

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argbooker · 02/04/2022 15:15

My daughter is 8, almost 9 and tonight her friend is coming over for her first sleepover. My daughter has never had anyone stay over but her friend has stayed at others before.

However, I'm a bit nervous, nervous that my daughter will get tired and overwhelmed and act out, worried that the girl will get homesick, worried they won't have fun.

What is my role? I offered to take them to the park, they said no. I'm taking them to McDonalds for dinner where they have requested they sit in alone whilst I stay in the car 😂 then we are going to get face masks they can do later. And they've said they will watch a film. There's plenty of snacks and treats and they've just been playing with my daughters hamster and have now went to the park across from the house.

Do I just let them do their own tonight or should I try and structure the night a bit? Im dreading the 'we're bored' and don't want the little girl to go home thinking it was the worse sleepover ever.

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worriedaboutmoney2022 · 02/04/2022 23:23

I have previously worked for Burger King so same sort of thing - afew years ago now and if I saw 2 x 8yr olds with no parent the duty manager would have been all over that!!

I cannot believe you think it would be acceptable to leave them and sit in the car regardless how safe you think the area is and if I'd taken my daughter for a sleepover and it has materialised you'd done this I would be absolutely fuming as would anyone with half an ounce of decency and common sense

In my opinion 8/9 is very young for a sleepover anyway it's totally
un-necessary

trainnane · 02/04/2022 23:24

I've never gone into toilets with my kids at 8 and nor has anyone I know.

trainnane · 02/04/2022 23:25

Op where I live sleepovers for age 8/9 is perfectly normal. Play, McD, maybe a movie and lots giggling.

Mistressiggi · 03/04/2022 09:40

@trainnane

I've never gone into toilets with my kids at 8 and nor has anyone I know.

It's not that you're going in with them (though surely you often do, as people when out tend to go to the loo at the same times) but that you know they've gone in, notice if they're taking longer than you'd expect, and walk in and call their name within seconds. You'd also be aware of who else is around and anyone else there will also be aware of you. Attacks in public toilets are hardly unusual.

trainnane · 03/04/2022 10:10

I shopping centres is prob nip in as well. But no not in McDs or restaurants. At 6 maybe not not 8. No one I know would by 8. I'd only check if they weren't back within a few min

Flatandhappy · 03/04/2022 11:41

Not a safety issue but your 8yo is requesting that you sit in the car while she eats with her friend and you seriously think that is ok. Be a parent for goodness sake, not a doormat.

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 03/04/2022 11:46

@Flatandhappy

Not a safety issue but your 8yo is requesting that you sit in the car while she eats with her friend and you seriously think that is ok. Be a parent for goodness sake, not a doormat.

For all you know, it might make zero difference to the OP. Personally I'd love a car picnic - comfy seat, peace and quiet with the radio on. Much better than a sticky table in McD's with two kids talking bollocks.

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 03/04/2022 11:47

@worriedaboutmoney2022

I have previously worked for Burger King so same sort of thing - afew years ago now and if I saw 2 x 8yr olds with no parent the duty manager would have been all over that!!

In my opinion 8/9 is very young for a sleepover anyway it's totally
un-necessary

😂

VyeBrator · 03/04/2022 11:47

I'd have no problem with the park but no way would I let an 8 year old dictate that I have to sit in my car, as I'm not allowed in McDonald's

Just sit at another table and do your own thing.

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argbooker · 03/04/2022 13:24

@Flatandhappy

Not a safety issue but your 8yo is requesting that you sit in the car while she eats with her friend and you seriously think that is ok. Be a parent for goodness sake, not a doormat.

I'd rather sit in the car than sat in a bloody McDonald's listening to 8 year old shite

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ididntevennotice · 03/04/2022 13:31

I'd rather sit in the car than sat in a bloody McDonald's listening to 8 year old shite

You sound delightful

balalake · 03/04/2022 13:32

@argbooker I'd rather they did not go to McDonalds.

The point about two 8 year olds being left alone there and the response anyone would expect from the duty manager is well made,

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argbooker · 03/04/2022 13:34

@ididntevennotice

I'd rather sit in the car than sat in a bloody McDonald's listening to 8 year old shite

You sound delightful

Because I used the word 'shite'?

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ididntevennotice · 03/04/2022 13:38

Because I used the word 'shite'?

No, not the word, the dismissive attitude. Your DD has a friend over and you cba to sit in McDonald's for what, 20-30 mins and converse with them.

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argbooker · 03/04/2022 13:40

@ididntevennotice

Because I used the word 'shite'?

No, not the word, the dismissive attitude. Your DD has a friend over and you cba to sit in McDonald's for what, 20-30 mins and converse with them.

If they wanted me to I would obviously, but you or someone said above that I should take great offence at being asked to sit in the car, but I'm not arsed, therefore, don't take offence.

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argbooker · 03/04/2022 13:41

'Cba to sit in McDonald's'

They've had a sleepover and her friend is till here 24 hours later, I do plenty! Don't tell me I can't be arsed

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ididntevennotice · 03/04/2022 13:43

@argbooker

'Cba to sit in McDonald's'

They've had a sleepover and her friend is till here 24 hours later, I do plenty! Don't tell me I can't be arsed

I can only go on the information you gave

Mumdiva99 · 03/04/2022 14:48

@argbooker did they have fun?

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argbooker · 03/04/2022 14:55

[quote Mumdiva99]@argbooker did they have fun?[/quote]
Yes lots of fun thanks! 2 very tired girls today though.... and mum!

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toomanydogsandcats · 03/04/2022 15:16

Glad they had a nice time. Shame about the pile on, hope it didn't spoil your day

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 03/04/2022 18:19

I can only go on the information you gave hmm

Oh, behave The information OP gave is that she's invited another child for a sleepover (pretty knackering in itself), arranged/offered a range of activities, and started a thread on here asking for advice because she wants to make sure they have fun. And she was going to sit in the car (keeping an eye through the window BECAUSE THE KIDS ASKED HER TO. And the message you take away from all that is that she cba?

ididntevennotice · 03/04/2022 18:28

@JesusInTheCabbageVan

I can only go on the information you gave hmm

Oh no, it wasn't what she was doing that made me say she cba - it was the...

I'd rather sit in the car than sat in a bloody McDonald's listening to 8 year old shite

OP said herself she would rather sit in the car than listen to the shite, so yes, cba

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 03/04/2022 18:31

So would most of us! It would be different if the kids,has begged her to be there, but they didn't. They were happy, OP was happy, and everyone survived.

Mumdiva99 · 03/04/2022 22:57

@argbooker that's lovely. We'll done. I hope you are having a well deserved early night.

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