Neighbours banging on wall

[georgarina]

I have a 9mo DD and she has a virus. Last night she was screaming and crying until 11.30PM, wouldn't settle or take a bottle.

The neighbours (who I've never met) started banging on the wall (maybe 5-10x?) getting progressively louder from 10-11PM.

I'm a single parent and live in a 1 bedroom flat so there's nowhere else to go with her. It was really stressful dealing with her screaming and someone pounding on the wall. Not like it's my choice for her to be screaming...and it's our house, not a shop where I can take her outside.

WWYD just ignore or speak to them?

Honestly I'd have banged back. Ignore them.

I think I would go round and speak to them, but not in a confrontational way. Just 'I'm sorry we disturbed you last night but DD is very poorly. I understand that it's a pain for you but it's just a virus so please can you be patient and not bang on the wall.'

Bang back.

If they don’t like noise they shouldn’t have moved to a flat.

I’d pop a note through the door this morning, just to say sorry about the noise, DD is unwell at the moment. Might make them feel like dicks.

@Poptasmagorical

I think I would go round and speak to them, but not in a confrontational way. Just 'I'm sorry we disturbed you last night but DD is very poorly. I understand that it's a pain for you but it's just a virus so please can you be patient and not bang on the wall.'

This any hopefully this will didn't then into how ridiculous they were. Hope you daughter feels better soon.

Hi Op, I feel for you, some people can be a bit thoughtless. I don’t understand how banging on the wall would help your next door neighbour to calm a stressful situation down, it’s stupid. Plus it didn’t go on past midnight, so not really a problem in my opinion.

This happened to me when my DS was very poorly. He ended up in hospital the next night, but my elderly neighbour would bang his cane against the wall or our window repeatedly which didn’t help. I went round after the hospital visit to explain the noise and he looked sheepish and accused me of imagining it and he didn’t hear a thing it made him feel a bit of a dick I think and it was never mentioned or happened again.

The said neighbour also spread untrue rumours about me to other neighbours and never had family or friends to visit so my guess is he was a cantankerous idiot who was thoughtless and angry with the world. If you are worried about your neighbours OP I would suggest explaining the situation (and probably watch them act sheepish) or ignore and treat as a one off. Hope your DD feels better

@Wnkingawalrus

I’d pop a note through the door this morning, just to say sorry about the noise, DD is unwell at the moment. Might make them feel like dicks.

^ This. I wouldn’t confront them f2f. A polite note, you’ve done your part. If they continue to bang on the walls contact their landlord if you can ( if they rent, of course) as they’ll be breaking their tenancy agreement.

I hope your baby is better soon.

Thank you everyone. I love the suggestion of writing a polite note explaining and asking not to bang on the walls.

And she is feeling much better this morning :)

@Poptasmagorical

I think I would go round and speak to them, but not in a confrontational way. Just 'I'm sorry we disturbed you last night but DD is very poorly. I understand that it's a pain for you but it's just a virus so please can you be patient and not bang on the wall.'

Do this