Long story but to shorten it as much as possible. Spouse and I have split up but not yet divorced. I left my job for various reasons and planned to go back to work once all children are school age.
Spouse and I set up a Universal Credit claims as they were also unemployed at the time and only getting temporary work of a week or two jumping from agency job to agency job.
He is now working in a job he likes and earns over the threshold but we have split up. He still lives with me in a rented home (both names on tenancy although the rent comes from my account). Due to his earning there has been a deduction of around £600 uc payment. Rent, my car, household bills majority, Internet, majority of food goes out of my bank and the uc payment. He's recently bought them new clothes. UC said we cannot separate claim as we live together. He is saving deposit to rent and improving his credit. I'm now living in overdraft and have asked for money toward s rent but to no avail. He will either say yes but not give any or ignore the comment.
I doubt myself a lot, I struggle with depression and anxiety and I'm now struggling to keep myself going with day to day things. I'm bidding on social housing but to no avail, cannot afford a divorce and I'm pretty sure housing and UC think I'm lying about my circumstances. We do not get on and there's a lot of resentment due to the way he has treated me in the past with silent treatment and stonewalling amongst other things. He has recently told me that I'm an unfit parent and all his family have said this apparently, this is due to asking a family member to help me with some cleaning when I was struggling to keep up with chores, it wasn't horrendous but needed a no distractions clean. Cleaning has never been my strong point (I'm better at all other mum aspects such as playing, learning, activities, emotional support, bath time, food, school runs etc)but I keep it clean enough environment for children but sometimes it gets too much and I need a hand to get back on top. But now I have to do it myself again and I'm at the point where nothing feels of any value as it doesnt feel like my life if that makes sense, the kids yes but I hate the house it's got bad memories and not close to family and friends, I've notice I've just been plodding along recently and feel a bit detached.
Anyway not really sure if I'm just entitled as he works for his money and needs to pay things off or if I have a valid point asking for money that I won't get anyway. 🙃 it's unbearable sometimes I just want my own space and freedom back, can't even come down to do an after bed tidy when I put my kids to bed because he sleeps in the living room and has to be up early .
Much needed rant anyway if nothing else.