Who would you say was BU in this scenario?

[VladmirsPoutine]

I'll find the video and link it in the thread below - I'm not sure how old it is but I only saw it yesterday but it's something I found very interesting. It was on Twitter if anyone knows what I'm talking about.

Essentially it seems to be based in the US. A woman and her daughter (daughter is young, I'd put her around primary school age).

Anyway, they are all on an aeroplane. A man is sitting in the window seat. Mother and daughter are adjacent. Daughter points at window and asks her mum if she can sit there. Mother kindly (and I stress kindly) asks the man if her daughter can sit in the window seat as it's her favourite seat. The man tells her no. He pretty much says that this will be a good 'life lesson' for her daughter that she/you can't always get what you want. (He's right but there was just something about his tone which I found distasteful) it's almost as though he was relishing that moment.

Truth be told if she knows that her daughter loves to sit by the window she should have pre-booked it to ensure those seats were theirs regardless. But then again couldn't another lesson be to show that others can be kind and bend towards you even if it puts them out of joint?

I'm not sure who exactly I think was being unreasonable in this because whilst she was fine to ask, it was also fine for the man to basically say "tough luck."

I don't think anyone was BU. I get asked to switch seats on flights regularly, but I usually say no.

I dont think anyone was unreasonable.

No harm in asking, and he was well within his rights to say no

I think you should have started with sharing the link as impossible to say otherwise.

The mother was being very unreasonable and entitled to ask. She should have booked that seat if she wanted it.

I once opted to change seats.

They ate my veggie dinner as they didn't refuse it and tell them we'd switched seats, and when I finally got an answer about it from the cabin crew all the veggie meals had gone.

So I never switch seats now.

Nobody is being unreasonable. The man booked and paid for the seat he wanted. The girl wanted to to move seats. Nobody was being unreasonable to ask, and nobody was being unreasonable to decline. Seems a bit of a non-event to me!!

@EarringsandLipstick

I think you should have started with sharing the link as impossible to say otherwise.

I'm trying to find it. It was on my Twitter feed so not very easy to find but I should have bookmarked it. I'm looking for it now.

I think it was rude to ask in the first place. I'd never ask someone to move for my child like that.

Man could have been polite about it and just said no sorry without trying to make a teaching point about it.

I saw about that although not a video.

I would absolutely have said no because I love the window seat and would have booked it. Not sure I'd have framed it as a life lesson though (even if I thought it).

I always book window seats as it’s my favourite seat too. So it would have been a no from me without the lecture. But I’d be annoyed if some parent tried to put pressure on me by saying it’s their kid’s favourite seat. My response would be to ask why they hadn’t booked it.

I wouldn’t have asked. Lots of people have issues with flying and choose specific seats so they can cope better.

If your child wants a window seat you organise that before the flight. Otherwise you accept the seat you have.

It sounds like he was a bit snotty in his reply but the woman shouldn’t have asked - it feels like she was using a bit of emotional blackmail there. I love a window seat too and often book it for tgat sole reason.

Nothing unreasonable about asking to swap (although it’s quite cheeky if it’s an airline where you pre-book or pay more for certain seats)

And definitely not unreasonable to say no to a child.

Shouldn’t be a life lesson to the child, but a life lesson to the parent. If they know their child loves the window seat, they should have booked and payed for a window seat. Not try their luck on someone.

I had an 8 hour flight once and I booked a window seat as I like to try and sleep and hate getting up if I’m in the middle or aisle to let others out/go to the toilet. Someone was sat in my seat as I boarded so I was quick to show them my ticket.

World is full of CFs.

Who was even filming this anyway? And why?

My money is on the mum, who has uploaded it to social media trying to make a twat out of the person that dared to say no to her precious child.

Anyway, she was being unreasonable. She shouldn't have asked.

The mother was being rude. Please give up the seat you paid for because my little treasure wants it.
The mother knows the child loves the seat but didn’t bother booking it.

So initially the dm was mean to not book her dd a window seat but then berated the man for also being mean (in her opinion)?
Strange woman.

The mother was rude and should’ve booked the window seat.

I would not have moved either. I book either aisle and if it’s gone window. I never move

The mother was being rude to ask... I wouldn't have done that.

She shouldn't have asked. He might have felt obliged to give up his seat.

Nobody was unreasonable.

She was fine to ask and he was fine to say no as it's his seat (and presumably he wants to sleep/look out of the window too).