to be worried he will try and get contact again?

[latriciamcneal]

My ex tried to strangle me when baby was 6m, she was in the room. He was arrested, I got a non-molestation, he went for contact 6 months later but stopped coming to court when asked to do DV and drug tasks.

That was 5 years ago. Daughter is 6. I'm married and we are all happy.

I had to cut his sister off because she sent abusive messages saying she will get her brother's child back for him, and Cafcass had ended up saying they do not endorse contact at the present time.

Some family are saying I should message her back, now that she's messaged again asking to see her niece. Thing is she was such a mess, a drunk, husband abusive, and was horrible to me I deemed her not fit to be around my daughter, especially if she was trying to help her brother.

If he puts in a contact request again will they even take him seriously? He was a habitual criminal and the judge was not impressed he stopped turning up last time.

I'm not really worried as my mind escalates to them taking my child. She's my world. I was on the pill when I got pregnant with my ex, he was no person to have a child with.

Delete the text and block.
Why wouldn't you do that?

Don't message her. Your life and your daughters life is stable and happy now. Dont willing allow these people back into your lives

@Georgeskitchen

Don't message her. Your life and your daughters life is stable and happy now. Dont willing allow these people back into your lives

I'm worried she might get together with her brother and force her way back in. Do you think a court would take her seriously? Or him? He came to two court appointments and stopped as he did not want to take drug tests.

@Easterbunnyiswindowshopping

Delete the text and block. Why wouldn't you do that?

She sent messages to my mum on facebook. My mum said it's right to give them contact.

You are her mother and safety net. Take your own counsel, not others!

Your mum is wrong. Get her to block them.

If you allow the sister to seem your DD, then it will be go against you in court.

I would keep it no contact and wait and see if they take you. You said your self your all happy and settles now, why rock the boat?

You do know dm's don't always know best op?.
You are the dm now. You get to decide for your dd.
Keeping them away seems acceptable..

Tell your mum she needs to butt out. Also make sure that she knows if she passes on any information - address, phone numbers, schools etc. Or attempts to see them when she has the kids alone you will consider her a danger to the kids and she won't see them either.

And double down with school that sister or dad are not allowed contact.

@LittleOwl153

Tell your mum she needs to butt out. Also make sure that she knows if she passes on any information - address, phone numbers, schools etc. Or attempts to see them when she has the kids alone you will consider her a danger to the kids and she won't see them either.

And double down with school that sister or dad are not allowed contact.

This.

DM needs to butt the hell out, and you need to tell her this in no uncertain terms.

Keep you and your DD safe by staying away from these nutters. She has no legal or moral right over YOUR child.

Absolutely do not establish any form of communication or contact with these people. You can't start allowing these people into your life then tell the courts they are dangerous/unsuitable. Delete and ignore and tell your mum that if she cannot put her grandchild first and do the same then she won't be having access either.

@toomuchfaster

Your mum is wrong. Get her to block them.

This! Hell yes, your mother is wrong to say you should let those two dangerous degenerates have contact with your defenceless child! Put your DD, and yourself whom she needs, first and block them! Then TELL your mother that your DD's safety and wellbeing is your priority, they are NOT going to be allowed to see her so long as you have any say in it and you are NOT going to discuss the matter anymore! Go to Citizens Advice about this matter and they may be able to advise you of your legal rights, or put you onto someone who can. All the best OP, I'm so sorry you're in this position but stand your ground and keep your heart up!