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Original poster

To really dislike most people in my life right now.

26 replies

GitOotMahSwamp · 31/03/2022 17:53

I don’t know if it’s me or not but everyone seems to be getting on my wick right now.
I’m prepared to hear IBU.

DH: always frigging mardy, always friggin tired. ( he does bike to work every morning and evening but he loves cycling) I get it’s tiring.
But Jesus Christ get the bus the options there he just doesn’t want too, but yet it’s me that has to put up with the moodiness.

DD: preteen- don’t need to say anymore

Best friend/ Sil: had a baby late last year. Happy for her love her to pieces. Now socialising with people she’s slagged off for a decade and continues to do so to me privately.
Can’t be bothered not interested.

Neighbour one. Only messaged me when she needs me to pick her kid up from school despite me working full time and her not working at all. I’ve put my foot down now and said no!

Neighbour 2. Overbearing rings me near enough every evening for nothing just repeats her self consistently for hours.
I’ve stopped answering her calls and a comment has been made that I don’t reply or answer the phone anymore.

Is it just me or is this whole thing just completely exhausting!
I just want to tell everyone to leave me alone so I can have some piece!

OP posts:
Bluetowelsandflannels · 31/03/2022 17:56

That does sound absolutely exhausting esp neighbour 2

PinkSyCo · 31/03/2022 17:59

YANBU.

ForeverLooking · 31/03/2022 18:01

YANBU

Vapeyvapevape · 31/03/2022 18:02

Lots of people get on my wick too Op , I think it gets worse with age . My tolerance has dwindled massively since hitting my 50's.

Mybestyear · 31/03/2022 18:03

Lol OP. I feel the same. I saw a t shirt on the daily mash which I’m thinking of getting which says “everyone is an arsehole except me”….🤣🤣🤣

billy1966 · 31/03/2022 18:03

YANBU.

I was always low tolerance but I am absolutely without any threshold these days.

Those two neighbours would be blocked without a second thought.
Both users.

Mamette · 31/03/2022 18:05

comment has been made that I don’t reply or answer the phone anymore.

Tough they’ll have to get used to it. People like this need to be trained if they don’t know how to behave. Stay strong.

Peanutssuck · 31/03/2022 18:06

I hear you. You are most definitely NBU.

Ponoka7 · 31/03/2022 18:06

Could you be in peri menopause?

GlitterSquid · 31/03/2022 18:08

Agreed. I'm noticing more and more that most people's favourite word is 'I'
It's so boring. 🙄

ssd · 31/03/2022 18:09

Same here. I block so many folk on my phone its a wonder I've any contacts leftGrin

PinkSyCo · 31/03/2022 18:09

Could you be in peri menopause?

Could you be about to blame OP for being surrounded by moody/two faced/annoying/pisstaking people?

balalake · 31/03/2022 18:10

YANBU, especially the neighbours. At least with the DD you know there will be an end at some point.

Original poster
GitOotMahSwamp · 31/03/2022 18:10

@Ponoka7 I don’t think So I’m only 32. It’s just everyone’s giving me the rage at the moment!

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ChickenRat · 31/03/2022 18:11

Seems like a lot of people feel like this at the moment so YANBU. I for one am heavily pregnant, socially isolated and generally furious

SevenWaystoLeave · 31/03/2022 18:14

I mean, these sound legit annoying but also you might be BU if you're just in the mindset to only focus on negatives. Anyone will annoy you if you're really set on being annoyed. Do none of these people also have good qualities or bring any joy to your life?

the80sweregreat · 31/03/2022 18:14

I tolerate a few people I know well.
The rest I avoid or keep it brief.

sweetbellyhigh · 31/03/2022 18:15

@Ponoka7

Could you be in peri menopause?
Did you post in the wrong thread? 🤔
FourChimneys · 31/03/2022 18:18

As I've got older I've got far better at ring fencing my life. In my early 60s, I'm actually brilliant at it now Grin

Tell Neighbour 2 that work/life is very busy and you are having three hours of uninterrupted time every evening.

Tell DH you can't listen right now but if he writes down all his grumbles you will try to read them later (a fabulous tip gleaned from my aunt).

Pre teen DD might be trickier though. Just count to ten a lot.

sweetbellyhigh · 31/03/2022 18:19

That's a pretty unfortunate combination of personalities to be surrounded by.

Your daughter gets off the hook here but your husband needs a reboot, the whining is such a turn off.

Your neighbours don't deserve your attention.

Inthesameboatatmo · 31/03/2022 18:26

Yanbu. It would drive me mental. I really can't be bothered with people the older I get.

gettingolderandgrumpy · 31/03/2022 18:37

Yanbu op as all those reasons are annoying. Most people have annoyed me today I could’ve cheerfully stabbed some of my colleagues with my pen just for being so bloody annoying doing f all and complaining how much they have to do but spend most of the day chatting .I think I’m just generally irritated at the minute though .

stuckinagut · 31/03/2022 19:40

We seem to be constantly on the defence - work, school, bloody neighbours! Everyone has gone a little bit doolally and it seems those people with a more sensible, centre ground personality are having to have an extreme amount of patience with those who live at the ends of the behaviour spectra at the moment. Exhausting!!

Bluechinavase · 31/03/2022 19:45

Just about everyone is doing my tits in right now. I’m fed up spoon feeding instructions to grown adults who can’t be arsed thinking for themselves. I refuse to do it anymore

SheilaWilcox · 31/03/2022 20:20

This pic sums it up for me:

To really dislike most people in my life right now.