To think ex SIL is bu with her comments?

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A few years ago, at 11 DS told us he was gay, mostly he was accepted apart from a few family members (although I did speak to them). About a year later, he told us he was straight and he had ‘girlfriends’, he is now 14 and recently he's been saying he's gay and he was trying to force himself to be straight but it didn't work.

SIL has been saying that he doesn't ‘seem’ gay and that he's ‘just confused’ and it'll be a phase like the last time. DS is adamant that it won't be and that he is gay which is completely fine.

AIBU?

Tell SIL you aren't interested in her opinion and quite frankly her interest in the sexuality of her nephew is odd.

I'd be telling SIL to butt out and that even DS doesn't need to label himself anything or feel like he needs to be fully any side of the spectrum.

I'd be telling ds that he can be gay, straight, bi whenever and however he likes and he doesn't need to keep updating you

SIL needs to mind her own beeswax and let him be whatever he wants to be

She’s BU, does your son understand that he doesn’t need to pick straight or gay? Being both, or neither is normal too. Being a teenager is so difficult, teens love to stick labels on each other and adults love to predict how teenagers will turn out. Most importantly I think you should try and keep this woman and her unhelpful opinions away from your DS were possible.

The safest thing to say about anyone else’s child’s sexuality is absolutely nothing!

I think you all need to stop having discussions about it, unless initiated by your DS.
And yes as pp said he shouldn’t feel he owes anyone live updates!

Why does she care? If your son is gay, he's gay! What does it have to do with her?