To reach out to someone

[velf]

Not AIBU in the usual sense. In a nutshell, I've recently learned that a woman who married into the same family I did (I'm now divorced) tried to take her own life. I don't know why, or what's been going on.

My experience of the family was certainly very challenging when I discovered my now exH had been using prostitutes. The blood relatives close ranks, rally round, and use covert and abusive tactics. None of them supported me. I felt a strong urge to escape from them all. I did manage to although it took a lot of effort and is still an ongoing situation. I fear this woman might also be in a similar situation to me but might be trapped because of the age of her DC.

I feel I should reach out to her. Would you?

How did you find out? This woman might not be too happy that something deeply personal is known to someone (you) who is a stranger to her. I don't think I'd be happy, even if the person's intentions are good.

I feel the opposite to the previous poster - I would be so grateful if you contacted me.

Can you contact her without any of the others knowing?

no just no

I wasn't planning on asking her anything about her situation directly but thought if I reached out she at least knows she can talk to me if she needs to.
I can contact her through one of her relatives.
I don't know if she even knows about my situation as the family are the type to brush things under the carpet to keep up external appearances.
I feel so desperate wondering if she's in the position (or worse) than I was in the past.

How old are her children?

Without being specific about the ages of the children, she's most definitely not in a position to sit it out for a couple of years until all are teenagers.