Was she being weird / a suck up?

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Went to a hen weekend a month or so ago. Great fun, everyone got along and clearly a lot effort had been put in by the bridesmaids.

Attended the wedding last weekend and found out that one of the other attendees had sent the 3 bridesmaids flowers as a 'thank you' for organising. BUT she'd signed it from all that had attended. She did not mention it to us or ask for money but still signed it from the group.

Is this not a bit weird / presumptuous?

i assume she sent flowers to the bridesmaids to thank them for the effort they put in. which i think is a lovely thing to do having read so many threads on here about nightmare hen parties it can be hard work do the organisers

I’m going against the grain here. This wouldn’t be normal amongst my friends, the bride would buy a present for the bridesmaid and we’d thank the organiser during the hen do, maybe getting her a drink. Id be wary of doing this as the bride may actually see it as stepping on her toes a little. How does anyone have the time, inclination and money to do this for every event they attend?

I think that is not necessary but a lovely gesture. Don't overthink it. Signing it from herself only without giving anyone the chance to contribute might be annoying as makes others look bad she has done the opposite.

I expect one of bridesmaids said to the bride and she knew who it would be.

@Septimius

I’m going against the grain here. This wouldn’t be normal amongst my friends, the bride would buy a present for the bridesmaid and we’d thank the organiser during the hen do, maybe getting her a drink. Id be wary of doing this as the bride may actually see it as stepping on her toes a little. How does anyone have the time, inclination and money to do this for every event they attend?

This exactly how I viewed it. Its not her place to send flowers, the event was organised for the bride, not for her. Sending from everyone who attended without discussing it also screams " Im so much nicer than the rest of you, look what I did" Its overstepping

@Templeblossom I agree that it’s trying to make a point about how ‘nice’ they are, especially 3 bunches of flowers. Totally speculating now but I wonder if the flower sender is a bit upset about not being a bridesmaid and thus trying to prove a point?

[quote Septimius]@Templeblossom I agree that it’s trying to make a point about how ‘nice’ they are, especially 3 bunches of flowers. Totally speculating now but I wonder if the flower sender is a bit upset about not being a bridesmaid and thus trying to prove a point?[/quote]
Interesting!
Thats a good point.
Its self importance of sorts.

Are you upset that you didn't think of it first?

It was a lovely thing to do. "Suck up"?

A suck up? How old are you?

I’ve sent thank you flowers to bridesmaids before, to say thank you for organising the hen. They spend so much time and effort planning the event and activities but don’t get much acknowledgment for it. So I, together with the other attendees, sent thank you flowers.

Considering that you find it weird, it says a lot more about you than it does the person who sent them.

Umm, why exactly are you bumping your gums over this?
How bloody miserable and ungracious.
Let me guess, you'd still be moaning if they asked you to contribute, right?

YABU she did a lovely thing.

It’s considerate to thank people when they have made a lot of effort to host or organise.

Attributing such negativity says far more about you than them.