Or am I being a menopausal misery?

[CuriousMariette]

Not sure if I’m being overly touchy about this. Neighbours are having some work done -all fine. During this the dividing garden wall is damaged and neighbours tell me builders are to mend it. I look out of my kitchen window to them working away in my front garden without bothering to ask if it’s ok. This is in fact the second time they have done this. (And they have damaged some of my flowers) 😡. No way would I have said no but I would like to have been asked. DH has been working away and I don’t particularly want strange men wandering around my garden. Should I grow a backbone and make it clear it’s rude and I don’t want them here again without at least checking with me first?

YANBU-they (or the neighbour) should have asked.

YABU-I’m being a sensitive flower and need to get over myself.

What do you mean by working in your front garden? If they're there to fix the dividing wall, I think you probably have to let this one go (and accept the loss of plants - but I feel your pain. I still mourn a small bush that died in a similar situation).

If they're just using your front garden as a convenient way to get more space, I'd definitely be politely asking them to please return to the garden of the person whose house they are working on and to stop damaging my property.

Well they did inform you the builders would be mending it so perhaps took it as understood that this would mean they'd be working on your side?

I would feel like you, but it’s definitely menopausal!

Well, do you want the fence fixed or not? If that's what they are doing in your garden I don't see the problem.

Well, if the wall is to be fixed, surely they're fixing it on instructions from your neighbours?

Why do you think the builders need to ask permission to do work they've been told to do?

I did wonder if it was just me and it obviously it is. I just think it would have been the polite thing to do.

@AffIt I’m not saying they need permission to do the work just to come into my garden to to it.
@SevenWaystoLeave - yes that seems reasonable - think I also have a bit of WFH rage to at all the noise outside today!

Your not being a menopausal misery and forget that idea. It's rude to just arrange on..
If you feel like it say, are you back tomorrow etc, give me a knock first.