He doesn't love me but there's no way out.

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Iv come to the realisation that my husband doesn't love me and hasn't for a long time, he has no respect or time for me, I asked him to get me something last night and it was like I'd asked him to cut of his arm.

He's horrible regularly and doesn't appreciate anything I do we have 3 DC (one isn't even here yet) I'm a SAHM but care for my mum who pays me so I buy the food shop with that and child benefit so he doesn't even pay for everything but expects me to do everything.

The relationship is completely dead I'm devastated for my DC but the worst part is there is no way out, I know if I told him to leave he wouldn't help and I'd be even more on my own but with the financial burden on top of it all.

I have no family or friends to help and I'm just completely stuck, not even sure why I'm posting as I know there isn't a solution

This sounds awful. Does he withhold money for food and essentials? I would say get your affairs in order, and make a plan to leave as this isn't a great way to live.

Have you checked what benefits you'd be entitled to? Does your mum have space for you to move in, or could you move into a bigger property with her?

The solution is that you divorce. So rather than think it's not a solution better to think how and when might be best for you.

You would be entitled to a share of the marital wealth (house, savings). You will be entitled to benefits. You will need to work at least part time as your children get older. So best to start doing the maths.

There is a way out, leave him. It is scary but so worthwhile. In alot of ways it is easier not having someone you resent in the home. I'm not saying it will be simple and great overnight but things will get better and you will look back soon and wonder why you didn't leave sooner.