DSS and COVID

[enoughalready22]

AIBU or is DH?
DSS's mum has been unwell, DSS has sent to us because she had to work, fair enough.
DSS has been under the weather, with COVID rife at school. But a negative RAT test.
I was away with work yesterday, DH was unusually keen to get hold of me before I flew home. DSS's mum and DSS have both tested positive - DH at this stage is neg.
DSS is still at ours, I've barely seen DSS because I've been working.
I've asked if DSS can go back to his mum's so avoid further exposure to DH and I. DH wants DSS to stay here because he had an exam tomorrow which he's been asked to supervise because his mum is too sick to.
I'm due to fly home (uk) from Australia in 10 days and I can afford to catch COVID right now. I've not seen my mum and dad in 3 years. We still have to isolate for 7 days if I catch it.

Your DH has already been exposed so might test positive in two or three days. Sending DSS home won’t guarantee you don’t get it. In your position I’d try to find a cheap hotel or B&B or something like that until you fly to the UK. Not an ideal solution but there is no ideal solution really. And you still could get it from someone you’ve been with at your work thing. It’s everywhere.

At this point to minimise your chances of catching it you definitely need to isolate from DSS AND your DH who's been in close contact with a positive case for several days now.

FWIW I managed to avoid catching it by isolating from my DD and DH when they both had it whilst sharing a house (masks in common areas of the house, using separate bathrooms & bedrooms etc). I don't think it's a given you'll catch it if you isolate yourself now. A B&B or hotel is the best option if you don't have enough space to isolate within your house but there's no point just sending DSS home and not bothering isolating from your DH. If he's caught it he might even be more contagious than DSS at this point.

I hope you manage to get to go on your trip and see your parents. In your shoes, I'd be isolating myself asap. I'd also limit as much as possible all social contact prior to flying.

As others have said your husband could already be infected. Have you got a friend who could take you in for the next week or so until you go away?

@enoughalready22

AIBU or is DH? DSS's mum has been unwell, DSS has sent to us because she had to work, fair enough. DSS has been under the weather, with COVID rife at school. But a negative RAT test. I was away with work yesterday, DH was unusually keen to get hold of me before I flew home. DSS's mum and DSS have both tested positive - DH at this stage is neg. DSS is still at ours, I've barely seen DSS because I've been working. I've asked if DSS can go back to his mum's so avoid further exposure to DH and I. DH wants DSS to stay here because he had an exam tomorrow which he's been asked to supervise because his mum is too sick to. I'm due to fly home (uk) from Australia in 10 days and I can afford to catch COVID right now. I've not seen my mum and dad in 3 years. We still have to isolate for 7 days if I catch it.

DSS exam is important. I'd book into a hotel.

The horse is already bolted, you DH has already been exposed and he does have a responsibility to supervise his child's exam since he is well enough to do while his mum is too unwell. Personally I would try and steer clear of both DSS and DH and hopefully you won't catch it. Many households have had family members mixing constantly and not all have tested positive so fingers crossed for you.

I have full blown anxiety about not being to go to the gym for 7 days and potentially not being able to travel.

If you are in my state in Australia and looking to fly in 10 days, I wouldn’t be going to the gym? Cases are rife and you are just as likely to catch this at the gym as anywhere else.

I get the anxiety over travel, but why are you going to the gym??

Yes you'll have to stay somewhere else. Pick a place near the gym.

Have your husband pack up all you need. Pick it up from doorstep and stay nearby in hotel or a friends til they both test negative.

Your dh has been exposed so he would need to leave too. It would be easier for you to go to a hotel if you need to avoid it.

Why are you going to the gym?

You need to isolate from them both.