My boyfriend is 48 and I'm 33. I'd say I'm OK looking and take pride in my hair and face. I'm certainly not beautiful but I try to look nice. I have never had huge confidence within my body. I like jeggings and jumpers and nice tops. Never had a boyfriend that is focused on looks or style before.
Said boyfriend Where's levi jeans and superdy t shirts. He has a few pairs of shorts. He often chills in a pair if Adidas trackies
In the past he's asked me why I don't curl my hair or have it shorter. Other times he compliments it.
With clothes he's on and off told me he will spoil Me and take me shopping and get me more stuff. I want you to feel good about yourself he'd say. He said you always wear jeggings and nothing else (I have loads of pairs)
I bought myself leggings and a denim shirt dress recently. He says I look lovely in that.
He told me last week I should get a few bits and make myself feel good. So with the weather warming up I decided to order a couple of midi dresses and a long dress and wedges. He responded with you don't need long dresses in summer you should have shorts on. I said oh please don't put me down when I'm finding confidence to wear new things.
I've just showed him a midi bardot black dress from quiz and then a shorter black dress I'd wear with tights. His reaction was they are OK when I sent photos.
So now I feel like whats the point in trying to be confident and wear more if he's going to encourage it on one hand then make me feel I've got bad taste.
I'm starting to feel patronised by him. I don't know if he treated his exes the same but he said they loved shopping with him. He said he knows what suits people.
Do you think this is controlling or an attempt to put me down? Is he trying to dress me like he wants? I don't know why but he's making me feel I can't win.