Struggling to talk to child about their abusive dad

[bananatwain]

My child is 3. Has started asking about their dad. They don't know their dad as he is abusive but he's trying to get access through the courts. Abuse was found in court and I have an injunction in place. Likely he will get contact at some point. Child has started asking about their dad. Saying that they want to live with their daddy. That their dad is their best friend. I have cptsd and am struggling to cope with these questions. I want to help my child and make sure they are well adjusted but I was raped and abused by their father and I just can't talk about him. Can anyone help? I'm so broken. If he gets contact I will fall apart.

Sorry meant to post in parenting. Will report

I actually have no real advice but I wanted you to know you are not alone in this. My 5yr old son doesn't know his Dad. He sexually assaulted another child in the family when my son was 1. Recently my son has been asking about him as children at school keep telling him he must have a dad.
I find it really hard to talk about him and also how to explain at a level appropriate for his age. I also kind of don't want to make his dad into a real person for him as at the moment he is just a concept.

I know that it's important for my son to know about his dad but I'm finding it so hard to get it right.

I also live in fear of him being granted contact.

It's so shit and difficult and I hope you find your way through it.

@Hullabaloo9

I actually have no real advice but I wanted you to know you are not alone in this. My 5yr old son doesn't know his Dad. He sexually assaulted another child in the family when my son was 1. Recently my son has been asking about him as children at school keep telling him he must have a dad. I find it really hard to talk about him and also how to explain at a level appropriate for his age. I also kind of don't want to make his dad into a real person for him as at the moment he is just a concept.

I know that it's important for my son to know about his dad but I'm finding it so hard to get it right.

I also live in fear of him being granted contact.

It's so shit and difficult and I hope you find your way through it.

Thank you and I'm so so sorry you are experiencing this.