Daughter’s First Birthday

[Pbaby0401]

So it is Dd2’s 1st birthday today and my husband’s side of the family (brothers and their wives! Who all have children too!) seem to have forgotten. They have sent through messages this morning to our family group just saying ‘happy birthday…card is in the post’

I’ll be honest, this has really p*ed me off! It’s like they’ve just remembered and are going to get a card today, let alone any sort of gift! All their children are older than ours (only by a couple of years) but we have NEVER forgotten to send a card & gift!

AIBU?? Especially for a first birthday? My family has always kind of made it a big thing!

It used to really annoy me too. My brothers live abroad so I only wanted a card really but as they'd have to do it quite a few days if not a week in advance they always seemed to forget.
My DH's family live in England so no bloody excuse although they always made sure to circulate their birthday lists which is still going on even now they are in their 40s!

I think the unusually warm weather threw everyone off. Their side of the family don't have to mirror yours. Do they expect or ask for stuff for their kids? I always think that it is nice for kids to make a card for family members.

I had a baby in 2020 and apart from my parents none of my family have even met her, never mind sending a card for her 1st birthday!
Our children are never as important to others than to us, they wished her happy birthday, but obviously aren't fussed about celebrating so just make it a lovely thing between the 3 of you.

@Ponoka7

I think the unusually warm weather threw everyone off. Their side of the family don't have to mirror yours. Do they expect or ask for stuff for their kids? I always think that it is nice for kids to make a card for family members.

The warm weather?

I think its all the worry over Ukraine or unprecedented tectonic plate movement.

They forgot a birthday, no need to make up excuses for them.

I have never once remembered or marked the first birthdays (or second, or third...) of any of the children my friends/family have. Luckily they are all reasonable people who don't take massive offence that I'm not as interested in their babies as they are.

My SIL’s all like to receive cards for their DC’s birthdays. I was never into it and didn’t expect them to send one to my DC. After a few years of them moaning to my DH about it they gave up. Maybe that side of the family is the same. It’s nice you got WhatsApp messages.

You posted before 9am
It’s not like they all sent messages at 9pm saying “happy birthday” - at least one of them remembered early enough to get the ball rolling
There’s no way the post had arrived by the time you posted - or sent them 2 days ago and may arrive today/tomorrow?
I get being annoyed… but 8am in the day is to early to be annoyed by people forgetting a birthday

I'd have been more than happy with the WhatsApp messages tbh! But I'm not one for card sending

Oh wow. This thread has really made me appreciate my siblings. They dote on their nephew, even though he's now the 5th child in the family - as I did and do, with my Nieces and Nephews!
YANBU