To complain about this GP?

[Hair345]

I'm going through a really stressful time, won't go into it but a lot of stuff has happened recently which has caused a lot of grief and stress for me.

This has caused a bit flare up of psoriasis on my scalp. It's everywhere and coming down my forehead. It looks utterly awful, my hair is constantly full of it and itchy and it's really noticeable when looking at me. It's making me feel even worse than I already do.

I went to see the GP about it again to see if we can try something else and I was explaining why it's making me feel mentally so shit, it's embarrassing being so obvious on my head and in my hair and I'm concerned about my hair coming out.

Anyway, he didn't really comment on what I'd said other than to suggest another course of medication but then said 'oh and remember, it is only hair, but I know how you girls can get about your hair' with a little laugh as if I was being totally OTT to be so upset and embarrassed at the state of my hair and head.

I've come away feeling like I've been totally patronised and like I'm silly for being so worried about it.

Yes my hair is a big deal, yes I want my hair to look nice and yes it is affecting my mental health that it doesn't.

AIBU to say something to the surgery?

@TheMoreYouKnow

No pointing complaining they will say he was just trying to reassure you. Maybe he had a patientvin with a life threatening condition beforehand and was comparing that in his head? Not saying its right what he said but pick your arguments carefully. You may be labelled as a complainer in the future if there is something you need to complain about in the future. I'd keep a note of note what he said with the date etc just incase there are other things that arise from your appt with him. Request a specialist appt and maybe consider asking to see someone else at the the practise?

If you come away from a consultation, deeply unhappy, then you complain. There is a point, doctors are humans and every day is a school day for them as well.

There's really no need to "pick your arguments".

'It's only hair'. I bet he wouldn't say that to Will Smith.

I would absolutely complain - it's not like he's going to get fired, but it means someone might point out that a bit more sensitivity wouldn't go amiss.

I'd feedback, chances are he thinks he's being nice and hasn't been told (not that men should have to but we know that's not the case). As it goes I had an appointment a while ago, the doctor did treat what I went for but their attitude absolutely stunk and if I was in a different headspace would have had a huge impact. I emailed the surgery manager and the doctor phoned back with an apology and said they'd be more thoughtful. I didn't expect that and it was a bit awkward to be honest and I'm not naive enough to expect wild change but hopefully it helped.