Have been debating whether to post about this. Decided to today.
We have a WhatsApp group of mums at school. All different years and it’s just grown organically. It’s not the class WhatsApp. We use it to discuss the school, but also organise days out etc. It’s not that busy, ( maybe a few weeks of silence and then a flurry of messages) and not everyone knows everyone directly but it a nice way to share info and learnings.
So last week we were having a convo about the gastro that had been going around and I added that my sons teacher had asked 2 girls to put on masks because of the gastro flu and Covid going round causing staff shortages. It’s not school policy but I guess they are desperate as subs are hard to come by. I didn’t give any thoughts on it, just stated it as fact. This one mum who has always been a bit off with me exploded at me about my ‘opinions’ and how rude I was about the school and then went on to say I was embarrassing and uncouth and that on behalf of everyone else, I should just go away.
Some other people women piped up with ‘woah, this is bullying language, this isn’t the place’ and ‘please don’t include me in this, I don’t want anyone speaking for me’
I was really shocked and confused. She has always been a bit weird with me. Her DS is in my DS’s class and she makes zero effort with me at any socials. She has walked away from groups if I join. I don’t really care, I know not everyone likes everyone else and it’s never bothered me. But this was out of the blue. I scrolled back 18 months on the group and I have never been rude or uncouth or embarrassed myself. Other people have said they didn’t know what she was on about and not to take it to heart. I don’t drink when we do socials because I have to drink. Yes I swear a bit but nothing shocking. I would say I was uncouth.
Several people checked on me in the week. I was really affected by it. memories of being bullied at school and Uni resurfaced and I was furious she had spoken to me like that. . She left the group the next day with some weird apology for her belligerence but no apology to me. She then popped up in another WhatsApp group I’m in that I didn’t realise she was in saying something about being really embarrassed about her behaviour and how no one should listen to anything she says.
Part of me thinks she might drink and the weird out of the blue comment was the result of daytime Sunday drinking and she was irritated by me (in general) or the mention of masks or maybe she had had an argument with her DH…
AIBU to want to text her and ask her what on Earth happened? DH says I should just leave it but I’m fed up of people being able to treat me badly and me always taking the high road and not calling them on it….