Are you crazy - am I?

[WhoIsCraz]

Have you had the ex calling you crazy before? Is this something I should challenge or leave it? I don’t think I am crazy (said the most crazy person ever), but he’s told the new gf I am! I want to put the record straight. Of course she thinks he’s the most charming man, she’ll learn.
No kids, he’s an ex because he’s a cheating wanker.

Surely that's standard?
That's why he is an ex - lying twat?

You are crazy to give him a second thought

Possibly standard, I’ve never had it before with an ex.
He’s telling everyone (mutual friends) I’m a crazy bitch though and I’d quite like him to stop.

How do you even know what he has told her? You do seem a bit too invested in an ex which can come across as crazy so no I wouldn’t do anything

Your ex’s new girlfriend doesn’t care whether you’re ‘crazy’ or not. He’s her boyfriend now; she doesn’t want his ex chipping in with complaints. Tough but true.

She told me! 🤣
I just don’t want to be branded crazy by our group of mutual friends. I’m not invested in him in the slightest.

My ex spread rumours that I'd cheated on him and that I'd stolen money from him, funnily enough the same things he told me the women before me had done. Challenging would have just meant he was still in my life. I walked away, if people chose to believe that shit about me then they didn't deserve my friendship anyway.

Step away.
You cant control what he says.
Keep your powder dry, DONT get drawn in, that just what they want!

Why do you speak to your exes new girlfriend? Is she someone you already knew?

Do you think she's going to put your impression of your own sanity above her boyfriend's?

Why do you care what she thinks of you, or what he's saying?

It's just drama. Opt out.

There are certainly some people that declare their exes were crazy in some form or other - normally as a way to make them seem like they were the completely reasonable person in the relationship, and they had to end it - rather than the true reason - like they cheated, weren't pulling their weight, etc.

Of course, the kicker being if you try and clear your name, you end up just evidencing that you ARE crazy - attempting to spread some malicious lies (i.e. the truth) or stalking them. The fact that all this person's exes seem to be crazy and they were ALWAYS the pinnacle of reasonableness and understanding is apparently not a concern.

As he cheated your brand of craziness will probably be "trust issues" - so all your evidence of cheating is completely fabricated. You were controlling, never let him out your sight. Frankly it's a miracle he got away. Attempting to tell her he was cheating is jealousy! Something like that?

In regards to mutual friends - either they'll believe his side - and as mentioned any attempt to convince them of not craziness will backfire. Or they'll stay in contact, and work it out themselves soon enough.

Thanks everyone.
I’ll leave them to it, the friends can decide who is the unreasonable one and pick their team.