Ceserian alone?

[Twinklett]

So I have a cesarean booked for this Thursday.

I tested positive for covid last Wed and go for my hosp PCR tomorrow.

I have a 3 year old who came down with chicken pox a week gone Friday, waiting for 18 month old to get it. I have a 10 and 12 year old too.

I'm really ill and exhausted. This year has been crap, granda died 4 weeks ago, he was like my dad and havnt had a chance to process any of it.

Here's the thing... I have THE most unsupportive partner. All he cares for is work. Hasn't helped me physically or mentally for as long as I can remember and soon as I mention anything ww3 starts. (On Friday I poured his cans beer down the sink in thinking how selfish if I need to go to hospital and he's over the limit) off the back of that I've been told to get out of his house. Small things like he's cold and pays for the heating even tho I've temperature with covid he puts the heating on.

Anyway that's not the kind of support I can cope with, final straw this morning, had girls to get to school and I felt I was going to pass out, he said he needed more notice and went to work.

So Thursday, he won't be any help being there but thinks as it's his child it's his right to be at the birth. Am I unreasonable to say no and I'd rather be alone? I feel alone all the time anyway and cope alot better when he's not here as I don't have that level of disappointment

Think about whether you even want him as your partner

It’s totally up to you, if you don’t want him there then definitely don’t. You want to be as relaxed and calm as possible.

You can choose who is in the room OP and from the sound of things you are essentially on your own anyway, i am so sorry you are in this position, i hope you have people close in RL for some support

Thank you. When my 18 month old was born c section, soon as we got hope he opened a can, went in a huff by day 3, spent a night at his brothers coz I yelled at him saying I was ffing tired. He wen back to work after 2 weeks of not helping and moved out when she was 3 weeks old for 4 months. Hands up I struggled to cope after 2 weeks post c section which is what caused the arguments. I'm gutted I've let history repeat itself but need some back up to ease my conscious.

I'm stressing about the covid thing as the hospital doesn't seem to know what the policy is now