To want to gift my neighbour something after a difficult separation from her partner?

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My lovely neighbour of 4 years has recently separated from her partner of 25+ years after the cheated on her.

We are not close, as we both admit we are anti social, but a couple of times a month we have long chats on the driveway about what’s been going on. My husband has helped with a few odd jobs etc

She doesn’t have many friends and I have invited her over a few times but I feel she doesn’t want to burden her with her problems. I have had a long chat to her today and she was crying her eyes out. I gave her a big hug and whilst she vented, she really has had an awful time and she is such a nice person, I was wondering about sending something to just to to say I’m thinking about and I am here if you need to chat. I just don’t want to make think awkward or feel I am overstepping, so AIBU?

A hitman would be perfect

I think if you’ve talked to her about what’s going on (rather than just hearing stuff through the walls!) then you’re close enough to get her a small gift to cheer her up (maybe a nice plant in a pot or some biscuits/chocolates/wine) and a short note letting her know that she’s welcome to knock on your door if she wants a chat.

Bottle of wine if she drinks! Some nice chocolates or biscuits if she doesn't.

Bottle of wine or chocolates or flowers should work.

You're a nice person OP

I think that’s lovely and recently had the same predicament.
Someone I know in a professional context recently went through a very difficult time. I knew about and they spoke to me about it, we’re close but we don’t see each other socially, only in professional circumstances.
I just wanted them to know that someone cares and just to give them a well deserved treat really.
I was in two minds about it, but in the end thought why not.
I made them a little gift basket, bottle of wine (I knew that they had a favourite), nice chocolates, a little plant, candle and some things for their children like gel pens, lip balms etc.
I just explained that I knew it had been rough, but wanted them to know that I did care about them and wanted them to feel a bit special and basically enjoy a cosy evening with their family.
They couldn’t have been happier, it was lovely and when I saw them next they gave me a massive hug and explained how happy the whole family was.

Go for it :) it will probably really make a difference.

Sounds really appropriate to me OP. I'm sure she will appreciate knowing you are thinking of her.

Aww OP, you are a good egg! Can I move next door to you on the other side?

I had a neighbour once who was going through a similarly awful time and became quite unwell as a result. I put a small gift through her door (it was an angel charm as she had said she believed in angels). She wore it daily.

And someone did the same for me. It was a little hamper and a candle. So kind.

Flowers would be appropriate imo

You sound like a great neighbour . All good suggestions and I'm sure any would be appreciated. Just adding that offering to send over a homecooked meal may be appreciated if you can find out what she likes.

Go for it! I have been fighting breast cancer and a neighbour I don't know particularly well gave me a bunch of daffodils. It was such a small thing, but it really made my day. I really appreciated the thought and thoroughly enjoyed the splash of colour on my windowsill.