Would you of confronted her ?

[Fuzzyduck43]

I work with a woman who makes it her soul purpose in life to be unkind to people. She has a history of falling out with individual people and then isolating and picking on them for months and in some cases years !
Sadly she seems to keep getting away with this as people seem to scared to confront her.
I really like my job and its excellent for the needs of my kids ,so really dont want to leave it. Shes decided that this year its my turn to be picked on. I've ignored her but recently we've had to work more closely together. My intention was to go to my boss and ask to be moved away from her but realised that it might be likely that I would be asked if I had tried to speak to her and resolve things .
So I have ,I havent said sorry just asked have I done something to offend her , shes basically tried to turn things around on me.I've gently batted it back each time and I'm hoping this is the end of it now (dont think anyone has actually confronted her before ) Have I done the right thing addressing this head on ? Its killed me being so polite ,but not sure what to do if it continues ,do I then ask to be moved ?

It doesn't sound like you've confronted her either, sounds like you've done exactly the right thing.

Personally I wouldn't be asking to be moved, I'd go straight to a HR grievance for bullying. I'd keep a record of all incidents with dates, so I could demonstrate the pattern of behaviour. I would carry on gently batting it back and being polite and civil. Definitely no confrontation - that won't reflect well on you...

I'd confront her. Tell her that her behaviour is verging on bullying and that if she doesn't stop you will make a formal complaint.

I'd put in a bullying complaint. Wrote as much down as you can, include exact quotes of what she has said where possible.

I used to work with this exact type of person, it's awful. Make a bullying complaint.

Shes very odd comes across like a sweet old lady to everyone but then literally targets one person,not helped shes related to the boss. Have no clue why people are like this especially at work

@hangrylady

I'd confront her. Tell her that her behaviour is verging on bullying and that if she doesn't stop you will make a formal complaint.

Don't give her warning She sounds like the type of person who will go to HR first to complain about you, and you'll just look like it's tit-for-tat. Keep a log and go to HR if it continues.

Definitely keep a log of specific incidents - once you have several - take them to HR and file a grievance in respect of bullying.