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To put DD back in nappies after 3 months?

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Crossfitgirl · 24/03/2022 15:05

DD is 2.5 and we started potty training at Christmas. She did great to start with, a few accidents once we put clothes on her and she went to nursery, but mostly dry if prompted to go.

Then the dribbling started. Dribbling in knickers every single time she needs a wee, she would tell us then run to the potty to do the actual wee - great. This went on for a month or two, I got so fed up of changing knickers I debated putting back in nappies but was advised by nursery not to, she was doing well etc. I went back to pantless at home, tried sticker rewards, and she did seem to respond a bit. Then suddenly she was totally dry for maybe 2-3 weeks.

Now, the dribbling has started again. She is now having some full accidents again too, increasingly refusing to use the potty or toilet, or saying "I don't need a wee" when she's wet herself, tantrums at me trying to get her to use the toilet, always saying no if she needs a wee. I am fed up!!

I have a 7 month old too and it's been great not doing 2 lots of nappies but I just feel SO done with it and I have often lost patience with her which has to be honest probably not helped, but anyway.

Has she come too far to go back to nappies? Should I push on? Should I continue trying with rewards etc? She is SO strong willed and stubborn that I feel like no matter what I do, using the potty and toilet totally depends on her mood, not what approach I use.

It's been 3 months so I almost feel it's a bit unreasonable to go back but I'm also losing the plot with constant battles every day. Would going back to nappies for a bit just make it worse??

Help!!

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emmsyg · 24/03/2022 16:02

Reusable training pants might be an option in the meantime, they'll at least save you having to change full outfits! Bambino mio and several other companies make them, and they just look like pants so no confusion with nappies!

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Crossfitgirl · 24/03/2022 16:54

I'm gutted as I bought some Mio training pants a few weeks ago, but then she had the really good stint and I thought we'd cracked it so I sold them on. That being said, I only tried them on her and she didn't like them.
She has just got up from her nap a bit ago and wet her pants. I asked her if she wants to put a nappy on, she said flat out NO. So not even sure it'll be another battle trying to get her to wear pull ups! We do already have some - she wears a pull up at bedtime /overnight. I am tempted to just not give her the option tomorrow, put her in pull ups and see how the day goes.

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Littlemissprosecco · 24/03/2022 17:16

If she’s refusing nappies then she’s probably able to understand that you don’t want accidents! Try a simple, if you have dry pants by lunchtime we can….. lots of little things, let her chose some. She’ll probably get it quite quickly, then the treats just slowly tail off….. my kids are so embarrassed now when I say do u remember putting a marble in the jar every time pants were dry? Full jar meant as an ice cream, I probably only ever gave them two ice creams!!

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Crossfitgirl · 28/03/2022 20:39

Just thought I would update, I've put her in pull up nappies. I've carried on prompting her as usual but if she's said she doesn't need it I've just said ok fine and left her alone. She has since happily just taken herself off to the toilet when she's needed to go, with no fuss at all and pretty much kept the nappies dry! Even at nursery today!
So long story short, think just taking that pressure off and letting her go on her terms is working and it's an emotional rather than physical thing.
Basically if you want your toddler to do something, stop telling them to do it and pretend you don't care and they'll do it 😂

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BrinksmansEntry · 28/03/2022 20:45

My son had accidents once he realised he could hold his wee in. He hated missing out on stuff or being interrupted if he was playing so would hold it in, then dribble once he ws distracted. It was v frustrating as he was dry, just stubborn.

I just reminded him to wee every hour or two. And reminded him he wouldn't miss anything id he went to the toilet. Took blinking months.

Even now at 7 I have to remind him to go to the toilet when he is obviously holding it in.

So I would remind her to go. Often.

RandomMess · 28/03/2022 20:51

That's good progress.

TBH they aren't trained unless you aren't needed!

PurpleNebula84 · 28/03/2022 21:45

If you've got Netflix - episode 9 or 10, Season one of Daniel Tiger's Neighbourhood deals with potty training and has "catchy" song. It might not be the entire answer to potty training issues, but it definitely helped reiterate it to my daughter that when you needed to go, you go and don't hold it in.

Anonymous48 · 28/03/2022 21:55

@Crossfitgirl

Just thought I would update, I've put her in pull up nappies. I've carried on prompting her as usual but if she's said she doesn't need it I've just said ok fine and left her alone. She has since happily just taken herself off to the toilet when she's needed to go, with no fuss at all and pretty much kept the nappies dry! Even at nursery today! So long story short, think just taking that pressure off and letting her go on her terms is working and it's an emotional rather than physical thing. Basically if you want your toddler to do something, stop telling them to do it and pretend you don't care and they'll do it 😂

I was going to echo some other posters' suggestion of pull ups, which are a good transitional step between nappies and no protection. It's unfortunate that you started potty training too soon (in hindsight), but going back to nappies probably wouldn't have been helpful. I hope this works for you.

For your next child, don't be in such a hurry!

RandomMess · 28/03/2022 22:22

With one of my DC I asked if she liked going to pre-school. when she said "yes" I explained she needed to keep her pants dry then so she did 🤷🏽‍♀️

Another one was dreadful for leaving it as late as possible as she was always immersed in play. I did just remind her that it wasn't ok.

Never did the nagging to go to the toilet they just took themselves.

Paperyfish · 28/03/2022 22:30

My friend that worked in nurseries used to claim that if you put cotton pants on a toilet training kid then pull ups on top you saved the hassle of clothes changing- but the kid still gets the sensory feedback of the cold damp cotton to reinforce the toilet training message. They’re still in big kid pants- but have a back up. I don’t know though. I must admit I gave up when my boy just didn’t get it after a few weeks. He mastered it quick when he wanted to.

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