Just posting on this thread since it’s popular.
Finally left my babies abusive father when our son was just 6 months old. I fell pregnant quickly in to our relationship and from that point on it was pretty much hell. I finally had the courage to leave for good back in November but I didn’t report him to the police. The only physical thing he ever did to me was push me a few times when he was angry with me and I didn’t think I would be able to prove all that he had done to me mentally to the police. Well, after 3 months of him making my life a nightmare through our child after we split I went to see a lawyer. The lawyer advised I stop all contact with him and report him to the police. I did, and they have put his behaviour towards me and our son down as causing psychological harm. They’re going to arrest him and charge him with a few things. Also, it turns out he has previous convictions already from things he has done to previous girlfriends. The police and HV can only tell me so much but I know there are similarities between what he has done to his exes and what he did to me. I’m scared of all the things he is going to say about me and going to court...it keeps me up at night with worry.
I was just hoping people who have been through a similar experience or know anyone who had if you can share some positive stories. I just want to be able to enjoy life again and enjoy my baby! I just feel really quite down about things a lot, I’m trying to remain positive but I can’t believe this is who my babies father is. I hope I haven’t ruined my child’s life, his dad still wants to be apart of his life and I’m scared of the damage he might cause him, If I had known about his past I would never have gone near him in the first place! Never mind have a child with him. Obviously I never really knew him in the first place and this is really my fault...
I used to think I was clever and wouldn’t put up with being treated badly by a man believe it or not ! Now look at how my life has turned out.