To send my friend something for Mother's Day?

[katieak]

Ok so maybe not AIBU but is it weird if I sent a card to my best friend on Mother's Day? She's a new Mum and has been having a tough time and it would just be to say that she's doing a fab job. She's my age so definitely not a mother figure to me but just to try and perk her up. But I don't want to intrude if it's not appropriate. She has a DP who I presume will get her something on behalf of their baby. I won't if it's a bit odd! TIA

I probably wouldn't if her DP might get her a card and present. But you could send her a card (not mother's day) to tell her how well she's doing!

Only you will know how it'll land with your friend specifically, but I don't think it's generally a bad idea. I'm not very sentimental, but I wouldn't hate receiving a card from a friend. It would land somewhere between "oh she's so sweet" and "oh my goodness I really needed that". I think you need to be confident enough to be open about why you've decided to send it.

I wouldn’t. It sounds very well-meaning of you but I think if she has a DP it might seem a bit strange. I would only be inclined to do that if she was a single mum who was unlikely to receive anything.

I wouldn’t. Just send her a text on the day to say you think she’s a fab mum. A card’s a bit weird (although coming from a lovely place)

No don't be silly. You can show her support in other ways. I'd think you were odd doing that and if I was her spouse I might even be annoyed, like you thought I couldn't do something myself.

I would maybe just send her a text instead saying "happy first mothers day!.just to let you know I thinknyoure an amazing mum because x y z, hope you have a great day with (baby)"
Less formal and not overstepping but I'm sure she'll love getting it!

Send it with a funny mithers day related meme or something if you want it to be more low-key

Just send her a text. It's undermining to her husband for you to do this. It's him that should be the one buying stuff, I think it's going to look a bit odd coming from you.

It’s odd.

Personally I would, I think it's a lovely gesture!

I think a text at the most. It may seem a little weird otherwise.

I used to send my then best friend stuff for Mother’s Day. Cards, flowers etc. Her husband was a bit pants whenever it came to her being a gift recipient so she was pleased that she was thought of! I gave her a godmother necklace last year but sadly we are no longer friends (not connected to the necklace!).

No, please don’t. But remind the dh!

If she has a partner then i wouldnt send one as he may feel like you are stepping on his toes but i think it would be a lovely gesture to send her a card saying how great she is doing being a mum and what a good friend she is?

No, I wouldn’t. A text saying happy first Mother’s Day etc would be nice.
It’s her DH’s job to organise a card/present “from” the baby and from himself.

If she was a single mum that would be different - but it’s essentially saying you don’t trust her DH to do an adequate job so you’ve had to step in.

I feel quite strongly about it because on my DH’s first Father’s Day last year, MIL sent him a gift “from” our baby, which I felt was overstepping the mark and should have been my job.

On so slightly mixed responses but on the whole it seems a no go. Just to be clear, I didn't mean it would be from the baby, doesn't even have to say Mother's Day on it, just more of a little thing to say that I think she's doing a great job. But noted. Perhaps I will wait a little while so it isn't linked to Mother's Day and just send something separately instead. Definitely wouldn't want him to be annoyed about it!

There's nothing weird about sending her a card and gift
I think it's lovely

I think it's a lovely idea. You can get specific "To my friend on Mother's Day" cards too.

I think it’s a lovely idea.

Don’t, years ago I sent my friend who was pregnant a Mother’s Day card on a whim. She never mentioned it and honestly I think she was being kind as it is a very weird thing to do. We are not friends now, I bet she still thinks of me as a massive weirdo!

I think it’s a lovely idea, go for it.

I don't think this this weird. I think it's lovely 🥰
She's a mum and you want to tell her she's doing a brilliant job .... you can send a text anytime but a card on Sunday would be lovely.
I've just sent a card to my ex partners mum, who is a super grandma to my kids and a lovely friend.
It's the thought that counts so don't think too much into it x

I think it's a lovely idea

I think this is so lovely and thoughtful. She will appreciate it so much.

I’ve had this done for me and also done it for others and it really does mean so much: I think it’s wonderful idea you sound like a lovely friend x