We bought a house 1 year ago and thought nothing needed doing. How wrong were we!!
It's all turned into a bit of a nightmare and part of this is due to me realising that I can not work alongside my DH.
In the beginning it was me contacting all the traders, making all the arrangements in a 30 minute dinner break (we both work full-time, me in the office and him at home). I had to tell him in the end and give him some responsibility which he did. Now it's just little things like - he isn't organised so is often dashing off to the DIY store for things forgotten in the middle of a job, he put all his tools etc on the dining table with no cloths to stop the scratches etc, he has lent something against our brand new fridge freezer that caused a dent in it. Last week he was working hard putting new architrave on until I had to tell him that he can't do that until the new floor is laid as it needs to go under the architrave. Today he has been off work and when I came back from work he has painted a part of the skirting board. This had been previously covered by an old radiator but this was removed this week. I told him previously that I hadn't prepped it as the radiator was in the way. It was obvious I hadn't and it was a mess with peeling paint showing previous varnish and it needed filling etc. What has he done! just painted over it and when I told him that it hadn't been sanded, primed etc he just says 'oh, thought you'd done it'. It's a right mess and more work to rectify.
Paint peeled on one wall we were emulsioning so I took it off and sanded etc. He slapped the paint on that thick that it's cracked and peeled and it all needs doing again, another large time-consuming job. I just can't work with him and I am so frustrated I could cry. I don't know whether it's just not his calling or whether he is lazy and just can't really be arsed. I don't want to carry on anymore and keep dreaming of selling the house and walking away. We try to get most of the work done at the weekend but I am always the first out of bed, get my DD breakfast and organised and then I get changed and crack on all whilst he is in bed. He normally comes down a good hour or so after when I am getting on with a job. This is really getting to me too. Don't get me wrong, I am not always up at the crack of dawn but when you know its the only way it will get finished you have to get on with it. I just don't know what to do and I am on the verge of doing nothing and downing my tools but what will that achieve?
Another thing is that 1 day a week in the evening I attend an online course. I discussed this with him and he was like 'go for it'. He then decided that he wanted to attend a gym class. Fine, I thought,why not? But it's on the same night as my course. This has made it really difficult for me because I still have a tea to cook, pots to clear away etc and I have to get this done before my course starts.
Then, whilst I was on the course, my DD kept interrupting because she usually goes in the shower and needed help. I just kept missing loads and when I raised this with my DH he just said 'well don't give her a shower that night then'. He has done the same to me tonight and I have only just finished cooking etc and rushed to get myself setup for my class and I was late so I haven't attended. Instead I am moaning to you lovely people. Thanks for listening.