My best friend has a pretty toxic relationship with her DP and recently cheated on him. When he found out he started messaging me all kinds of abuse, seemingly blaming me for her being unfaithful. I did know she was having an affair but I didn’t think it was my place to tell him, which some people may judge me for. I hated that my friend was having an affair, and told her it was a bad idea but I didn’t feel I could stop her.
Anyway, when he found out he sent me a torrent of abusive messages in which he called me all names under the sun f**g btch, whore, stupid cow etc. I just let him get on with it and did not retaliate.
My best friend got back together with him and is now expecting me to act as if nothing has happened. She’s invited me for dinner with him but I’ve told her I don’t want to be around him. I don’t think they are going to be together for much longer anyway.
AIBU? Or should I forgive him and accept he said those things in extreme upset and anger?