Husband - relationship advice

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Hi,
Recently my husband and I have not been getting on so well. It’s been hard juggling a new baby, cooking and all the housework. My husband is doing a masters as well as work and time is very limited . He’s very good with our baby and does try to help with him as much as he can but not so good with the housework- cooking etc.
We haven’t really been talking the last few days and this morning I told him I was bringing the baby out as he sleeps better in the car ( he works from home) .
I was gone for 3hrs 45mins - home for lunch time .
I returned home to an angry husband as he said he was worried and I didn’t contact. He didn’t even message or try to call me. I had my phone on my the whole time. Am I right to be upset? Does he have the right to be annoyed if he didn’t try to make contact?

We haven’t really been talking the last few days and this morning I told him I was bringing the baby out as he sleeps better in the car ( he works from home) .
Do you mean you haven't really been talking as in you've had an argument? When you said you were taking baby out was it in an angry way? What did he say? He might have been worried you weren't going to come back if you've been rowing but it's come out as anger.

He hasn't got the right to be angry. You don't have to live with anger. If he was worried he could have text you. Is this a new thing because of the Masters? How long as he got to go? It seems that communication has broken down between you.

No not in an angry way. We’ve been communicating in regards to baby but no chats! I’d said baby sleeps better in the car so I’m going to bring him out while he went to work ( he works from home)

Tbh I don’t think it’s purely the masters - I found I’d to do the bulk of the housework and cooking even when pregnant and working .. that was pre masters! He said he will stop the masters but that was in a heated discussion and I feel like that will mean all the time will be for nothing then. I’d gone away to my mums for 6 days to give him some time to catch up . I’m trying my best to accommodate but he acts as if I’m falling apart when i say I'm struggling . Most parents don’t do all this alone!

Do you often take the baby out in the car for so long? If not, I can see why he might have been concerned if he was just expecting you to go while baby napped for an hour or whatever but I'd have expected him to call you if he was actually worried.

I'd have just said "I didn't realise you'd be worried - I don't have any missed calls?"

Yeah I guess I wouldn’t generally go that long - but not would be that unusual for me to go for an hour or two! Weather was nice and I hadn’t really been keeping track of the time. I was surprised when he was angry. I’d asked why didn’t he call but he said it was up to me to say I was okay. Hadn’t thought it was an issue.

How can he possibly say it's up to you to say you're ok? Surely you only need to contact him if you're not, and if you had an accident or something awful you wouldn't have been in a position to contact him anyway!

I don't think he has a leg to stand on here.

If he's worried in future he can call you.