39 weeks pregnant and…

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…if I receive one more text message that says “Baby?” “Where is my grandchild?” “Has the baby come yet?” “Hurry up and have my baby so I can meet it” which when I respond no to I don’t hear anything else from them until I get the same text either later in the day or the next day…

…whilst I’m sitting here bricking it about what’s going to be happening soon and anxious about this huge life transformation. Is it too much to add a little “how are you doing?” at the end?

AIBU here? This is lighthearted by the way and I’d love to know if anyone else got so many of these texts in the last few weeks of pregnancy. Should I just ignore them until baby is born?

God I hated this. Mute them all!!! And go put your feet up and watch a box set Good luck with the birth and enjoy your newborn when they get here!

Surely, surely you must be tempted to reply with something like "Oh shit! Did I forget to tell you! Baby arrived daaaaays ago"

Like you wouldn't bloody mention it when it happens!

@DropYourSword

Surely, surely you must be tempted to reply with something like "Oh shit! Did I forget to tell you! Baby arrived daaaaays ago"

Like you wouldn't bloody mention it when it happens!

I have actually made a point of saying to a few people “don’t you think I would’ve told you?”

Apparently no since they then send me the same message a few hours later

I remember this. I told myself not to set too much store by due dates but in the end I woke up that morning in a massive grump and think my first words to DH were “where’s the baby and why’s it not here yet, I’ve had enough!” I spent the next few days sweating, crying at everything, swearing at my phone when this sort of message landed, bouncing on my ball and watching Queer Eye.

Put your phone on silent, don’t reply to annoying messages, do anything and everything which makes you feel happy, calm, cosy and peaceful.

You’ll be fine, it’s time to retreat into a metaphorical cave and just be comfortable.

They mean well but fuck everyone and just focus on yourself.

YES. My eldest is a teenager now but one friend in particular would send the SAME text several times a day. Literally just “any sign yet?” I was always tempted to reply with something sarcastic like of what? Godot? The Rapture? MY BLOODY FEET???

Congrats OP and all the best

With my second born I added two weeks on to my due date to avoid these annoying messages!

Just reply baby not here yet…. Oh and the vessel that is growing your dgc etc is as grumpy as fuck being so unwieldy and worried about the potential forthcoming harm to my foof … thanks for asking!

This is why I told everyone I was due the month after I actually was, or just never told them when I was due at all.

They all sound ridiculously over invested in this and a bit suffocating unless they’re from your partner. “My baby”?!

Just answer simply, 'I'm doing fine at the moment, thank you for asking'. Every. Single. Time.

I would block them all, and I'm serious. I can't tolerate nonsense like this. Unblock a while after the baby is born.

YANBU. I’m due this week and getting texts like this. I’m just ignoring them now. I know people are excited, and it’s sweet. But it’s adding to my nerves about the birth, and it’s starting to feel a bit invasive.

My partner said I should send them this link (although I haven’t)

haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/

[quote Derbee]YANBU. I’m due this week and getting texts like this. I’m just ignoring them now. I know people are excited, and it’s sweet. But it’s adding to my nerves about the birth, and it’s starting to feel a bit invasive.

My partner said I should send them this link (although I haven’t)

haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/[/quote]
First of all congratulations!

Second of all please thank your husband, I will be using that link 😂

I hated this. The stupid thing is 1/2 of those who messaged have not even bothered to meet her or ask after her. She's 11 weeks tomorrow :/

Just put a message on FB etc saying you appreciate everyone's excitement but can they stop messaging. You will announce the birth in your own time when the baby's here.

Good luck with the birth.

Just realised I need a name change now :D

write back and say "baby? oh soz, forgot to say, i had him last week"
and then block everyone

Oh this is so annoying.

"Your relentless texts are stressing me out. I'll let you know once the baby is here. In the meantime, get a hobby"

'Heya, Aww I've been for another scan and they've got my dates wrong - baby not actually due for another three weeks!! Ask me in three weeks, will let you know if baby is somehow early'
My biggest regret with each pregnancy is actually being honest about the due date. Its better to tell people your due date is two weeks later than it really is then you can avoid a lot of the messages!

Ignore them because they will then get MASSIVELY excited thinking you’re not replying because you’re in labour, and (hopefully) they can only do that once before they have to start hassling your DP instead or else get fed up and find something else to do with themselves.

That or start replying “yeah just having it now, want to see a shot of it crowning?”

Also: how are you, OP? Got enough biscuits while you wait? Hope you’re managing to relax a bit

How are you doing, OP?

It's the hardest, craziest, greatest thing ever.

That really annoyed me when I had DD1. She was due on the last day of the month and ended up arriving the next month, a week later. I’ve been getting inconsiderate messages like this since the beginning of the month (36 weeks) when she was due. I stopped replying to them

I had this from 34 weeks- people wishing my baby here. Had to ask them to wish For my baby to arrive prematurely.
I ignored any questions like this after week 37.

Can you set up an auto reply that just says 'if you're messaging me to ask where the baby is I'm not going to reply to you'

YANBU. my standard reply was 'im waiting as fast as I can' ....ended up going 13 days overdue and had just stopped replying by then

YANBU, I told most people a due date that was 10 days over and even when I had a scheduled c section planned, very few knew of it until after the delivery 😆

Y'know, I think this may all have been easier in my day, (no mobile phones, no messaging etc) It was just me and DH and the hours and days.... no bad thing. DD1 was 14 days late and I had to get things going by some athletic pruning of the grape vine over our pergola.
The link PP sent is great. Xx Very best of luck OP. Xx
Yes

@Derbee 🤣🤣 that is so funny. I'll save that!