OH milking covid or am I heartless

[jackypqueen]

Whole household has covid, I'm just coming up to my due date so baby due any day now. He's constantly moaning about body aches and won't get out of bed.

But I am having to carry on whilst he stays in bed, whenever I go upstairs he quickly puts his phone down so I know he's scrolling social media.

I feel like crap too but have no choice!

AIBU to think he should at least come and sit downstairs with me and the kids. He's not even sleeping upstairs just lying there.

Or am I just mean and heartless as he says

That’s not acceptable at all. If you’re heavily pregnant you should be the one, if anyone, who gets to bow out and just rest.

YANBU! Whole house with covid here too so I feel your sympathy! Crawl in bed with him and tell him it’s his turn! Or take the kids with you!

YANBU if he’s using it as a cop out and isn’t genuinely struggling with it. I know some people are bedbound with it but if he has the energy to scroll through his phone he’s probably ok. You should be the one in bed if anything.

People die from it so you can have no idea how bad he is - but given he’s trying to hide his phone usage, and you know him, you could well be right.

Everyone suffers differently. My DH continued working from home whereas I couldn't lift my head off the pillow.

When I had Covid I wasn't up to doing anything other than lying in bed scrolling through my phone to be honest. I couldn't concentrate on reading, I couldn't watch telly, and the fatigue and aching was insane. But symptoms do vary a lot between people, even in the same household.

However, given that you're so heavily pregnant and everyone's ill, I think he at least needs to take in turns with you to keep an eye on your kids so you can both get a bit of rest, even if he's just lying on the sofa feeling rubbish while the kids watch a film or something.

Everyone gets covid different. I know friends been floored and literally can not move whilst others only know they have covid due to the lft. All vaccinated. Maybe crawl into bed with him and take it in turns

It sounds like you should be in bed and he should be sorting the kids out

Is he always this selfish?

@londonrach

Everyone gets covid different. I know friends been floored and literally can not move whilst others only know they have covid due to the lft. All vaccinated. Maybe crawl into bed with him and take it in turns

^^This. It is possible that he does genuinely feel far sicker than you, so YABU to expect him to get up just to keep you company. But you are entitled to take turns resting.

It’s possible that he’s feeling ropey, but I’d imagine that Covid while heavily pregnant is no walk in the park so yanbu. It’s terrible that women are expected to crack on whatever the circumstances while their partners are able to take to their beds leaving everything to their partner who is also sick.

Does he have form for leaving everything to you? Hopefully not. If it was my partner, I’d know he felt as bad as he said, but only you know what your partner is like.

We have covid at the moment and the aching is horrible.

I'm not sure. Is he always like this when he's ill?

People can be ill at the same time and get Covid so differently. When I had it there was no way I could do anything whilst my DP who also had it was walking around like nothing was wrong with him at all.

Is he always like that? If not then YABU, if he’s more ill with covid than you are then it’s not his fault, he can’t make himself less ill because your feeling rubbish. It’s impossible to say though cos if he has form for being an asshole or faking it then obviously YANBU. Hopefully you’re all feeling better soon anyway, take it as easy as you can! And make sure you milk it when the baby is born.

Yeah, I mean I can understand why you are annoyed. But it’s hard because you genuinely have no idea how he feels. We had four in the house with covid and the symptoms were massively varied. I was floored and couldn’t even get up to go to the toilet. My kids, one was bad the other was like he had a cold. Husband, no symptoms at all except a very slight headache

The problem is that you have no idea how ill he is feeling. DS had no symptoms and worked through (from home!) whereas DD was ill in bed for 2 days

AIBU to think he should at least come and sit downstairs with me and the kids

What is the point of having him downstairs? Is it just for company? Then yabu.
Or do you think he is faking and should be doing more with the kids?
If he is genuinely sick and feels like he can't get up then he should stay in bed, but you need to be resting too and taking it in turns to mind existing kids.

YANBU, how many times has a woman had to suck it up and get on with it when ill. You are heavily pregnant, I’m sure he could make himself useful some how.