Am I being picky or is this annoying?

[Sofiegiraffe]

Every time DP removes clean dry clothes from the clothes horse in the dining room, he dumps them on the dining table in a messy pile with no effort to fold them. They get left for days and days. Inevitably it is me who gets sick of the sight of the pile and starts the process of sorting through and folding them into piles of the 4 of us (we have 2 DC). He thinks I'm unreasonable and being picky as he's removing them to o it wet stuff on and he doesn't have "time" to fold them 🙄 I mean, I do it myself as soon as I take them off the clothes horse and it doesn't exactly add hours on!

This has come up several times now and I'm so fed up of having to sit and sort through the piles and fold them.

AIBU?

How old are the children? Can they pick out and fold their own clothes?
But, yes, it's annoying and YANBU. He's only doing half a job. It really doesn't take much longer to fold each item as you take it off the clothes horse and then put everything away.

One is under 1 and the other is a teen so she is definitely old enough! She doesn't do it though either. It all falls to me. I've dumped theirs in a separate pile and just sorted mine and the baby's as I'm so sick of it now. I'm not folding theirs anymore. Might be petty but I've had enough of finishing off jobs neither of them can be arsed doing!

They should be folded as he takes them off, its hardly a massively time consuming job. He's being a lazy arse who probably thinks you should be eternally grateful that he's hanging the wet stuff on for you The fact they sit in heaps on the dining table for days would drive me nuts!

He is doing a half-arsed job. Whoever takes stuff off the airer also folds it and puts it away.

Deliberate incompetence. He knows you'll do it, so he doesn't have to. He thinks his time is more important than yours. This isn't actually about the folding, it's about your work being the wife work and folding is wife work (in his view). He's already doing too much by taking it off the airer and he's not afraid to let you know.

I'd get a was basket specifically for the dry stuff. Sort yours and he baby's and scoop the rest into the basket. Where's my t shirt? In the basket. Where have all of my socks gone? In the basket.

@JuneOsborne

Deliberate incompetence. He knows you'll do it, so he doesn't have to. He thinks his time is more important than yours. This isn't actually about the folding, it's about your work being the wife work and folding is wife work (in his view). He's already doing too much by taking it off the airer and he's not afraid to let you know.

I'd get a was basket specifically for the dry stuff. Sort yours and he baby's and scoop the rest into the basket. Where's my t shirt? In the basket. Where have all of my socks gone? In the basket.

This is exactly what I've done. There's an overflowing basket of unfolded stuff belonging to DP and eldest DD - they can find their stuff in there if they want it!

My dh does this, but he tends to leave it on the back of the sofa. It’s lazy and annoying. I have taken to asking the kids to take their items upstairs and leaving dh’s there. Then when he is looking for them I can say honestly that he took them off the line/airer, where did he put them? Obviously they are still in a crumpled heap on the back of the sofa.

The only issue is I thought that the consequence might teach him to be better. It hasn’t. But at least it’s his problem now, not mine.

If he’s got time to place wet clothes on a clothes horse, then he’s got time to fold the dry clothes he’s just picked up. Like quickly folding a few things takes what… 1 minute. 2 minutes at most?

YANBU. Stick to sorting yours and baby’s laundry and let DH and DD sort their own.

My DH does the same. Although we have no standard dumping place for him to put the washing so I have to wander round trying to work out where the latest dumping ground is. Drives me nuts.