Aibu to expect support and sympathy! Covid.

[Senderandme]

My DH and I both tested positive for covid on Sunday but I have been in bed since Friday on and off feeling really ill. My DC is 4 and is fine. I suspect she had it earlier than us from school. Anyway, AIBU to expect family members who are normally in contact a lot to at least text and check in with us?! We had a a really rough day yesterday with both of us ill trying to juggle childcare and no texts to check if we are ok or offer of shopping etc from either family. I’m pretty pissed off. It feels like they don’t give a damn about us having this thing we have been trying to avoid for two years! AIBU?

Have you asked them for help?

I have to admit it wouldn't occur to me to offer help in this situation. You can get food delivered if you're desperate or just ring and ask if you need some support.

Lots of people have COVID at the moment and it probably hasn't occurred to them that you're struggling if you've not said anything.

The narrative now is that covid is mild and hardly more than a sniffle. That most likely explains it.

Yes I have asked my mum to take my DC to school but she said no as she feels her partner is vulnerable (he’s not). I suppose I’m k no Orr hurt that we haven’t had a text asking how we are

@Senderandme

Yes I have asked my mum to take my DC to school but she said no as she feels her partner is vulnerable (he’s not). I suppose I’m k no Orr hurt that we haven’t had a text asking how we are

I don't think that is unreasonable of your mum. I wouldn't want to have close contact with children from a covid-positive household in her situation.

I don't really blame your mum for not wanting contact with your 4yo if you're both testing positive. It's sensible to want to avoid it where possible, imo.

If you've been asking your mum for help, presumably she's been in touch somehow so maybe she doesn't think she needs to do more?

I think you probably feel rubbish as you're unwell and that can really magnify things sometimes. Just rest and try not to read too much into everyone's actions.

As a PP said, the narrative is that COVID is mild now and people wouldn't check in with your for a run-of-the-mill cold.

I think I know how you feel OP. I tested positive on Christmas Day, DP a couple of days before. Both of us felt rotten and were laid up in bed for a few days. We missed a lot of family get togethers because if it. My family checked in every couple of days with us just to see how we were and made sure to thank us for Christmas gifts we managed to get to them before we got sick.

DP’s family on the other hand….not a peep. They all got together on Boxing Day and no one sent a message to wish us well or even thank us for gifts we gave them. I felt really sorry and hurt for DP. It has really changed my opinion of them and I can’t quite forgive them for it. I mean - it was Christmas for crying out loud!

P.s Hope you all feel better soon!

We’re the same here but as everyone seems to have it now I suppose it doesn’t really cross people’s minds? My nail lady asked how I was when I cancelled my appointment though

We have a 3 year old and an 8 month old so I understand it’s hard! Hope you feel better soon!

YABU. You're not a child anymore and I'm afraid you sound like you need to grow up a bit.

Covid in May 2020 is not the same thing now. Presumably you are fully jabbed and boosted. At worst it's like 'flu. For many much less.

Expecting lots of concern for as you put it feeling rough and staying in bed for a few days is a bit ridiculous.

Put your low feelings down to illness and get over it.

Did you expect your family to do this when you had a bad cold? Or a stomach ache?

Whilst I think its nice when family members do check in, I dont think its fair of you to be annoyed that your family havent.

Get food delivered, you'll be fine again in a couple of days

YANBU. A bit of sympathy and concern goes a long way.

If it helps my DB and his family came to us with mild symptoms on Boxing Day and inevitably I caught it. I was really rough for over a week while they skipped around with a ‘sniffle’. They barely bothered to check in even though they knew I was ill. SIL later told me I should be happy she had given me lots of good antibodies.

Get well soon.

@PurpleDaisies

The narrative now is that covid is mild and hardly more than a sniffle. That most likely explains it.

This is spot on. I had Covid for the first time last month and even my own mother couldn’t be bothered to call to see how I was. Even when she was told by my sister that I was feeling really rough.

I’ve had friends who have had it over the past 2 years and have always messaged offering help. Offering to pick up bits and leave on doorstep etc. Not one friend offered the same in return.

It’s all because people are both tired of hearing about it and because we have been constantly told that it is just like a cold now. Well it certainly isn’t for many, many people.

So I can understand why this stings a bit for you @Senderandme. I do hope you feel better very soon. Lots of rest, lots of water and eat what you fancy. And don’t rush back to your usual routine. It might take a couple of weeks to shake it off, like flu.

YABU to expect.

Will you also confront them about not meeting your expectations when you are well again?!

🙄